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I have a 9 month old daughter Jasmine. She has been fine up until a few weeks ago. She will not leave me alone. She cries if I leave the room, will not go to any family member and even her Daddy some days. Which upsets him. She justs wants me her Mummy. If I have hold of her she is holding on to me tight so I don't leave her. She was also a brilliant sleeper until the last few nights have been a nightmare. We use to just put her down awake and she would just go to sleep, but she is screaming the place down and when I go into her room she just wants me to pick her up and cuddle her. If I go to put her back down she is hysterical. It is getting me down plus upsetting me as well. I have asked my HV and she says it's a phase she is going through when anxiety is at it's peak at this age. She says she will grow out of it eventually, but for how long? I can't go or do anything without her screaming. Has anyonr else been through this with their little ones. It will be assuring I am not on my own with this situation.

Lisa[!]

Lisa hi there you are not alone. I have 3 kids now, my youngest is 13 weeks old tomorrow and my oldest will be 6 on thursday and my toddler will be 3 in a few weeks. Anyway I had the same problem with my daughter she is nearly 3 now but I could not leave her at all, She would not stay with anyone else not even daddy. It got me down aswell as I could not get things done, go anywhere without her etc. She has grown out of it now, but does have the odd moment when she just wants me. I did not have that with my first son and as yet not sure how the baby will be. I had to be cruel to be kind and I started an evening job and so daddy had to put her to bed, bath her etc and she has adjusted and I don't work evenings now. I love her to bits and even though I wanted to be there for her all the time, I knew I could not be as she would be worse as she got older. She started playschool last week and went in with NO TEARS, it was me who cryed!!
Try leaving her for short periods of time, she is still small, start with a couple of mins then go back to her so she knows that you are coming back and then slowly increase the times, hopefully this will help and you will again feel happier about things. Try to not let it get you down, I know its hard I have been there myself.
Chin Up hun
Love Lorraine. x

Hi Lorraine

Thanks for your reply. It's just helps knowing I am not on my own. With you having3children you will know what it is like. I will try what yousaid about just leaving her for a bit then go back to her. I can't even make myself a cup of coffee at the moment. I keep saying "Mummy's only here" so she knows I have not left her. She just screams. I hope it's not for long.

Anyway thanks.

Lisa S

Try it it really will help I promise. xx If you give into her crying she will do it more lol Sorry I sound like a hitler! She prob has teeth coming aswell so that won't help, but give yourself a break and distance yourself a bit, she will adjust I promise you. x