My hubby said I am a frump and it really has upset me!
I am in jeans and a nice top and chunky cardi, nothing frumpy! I don't treat myself much now and wear what I have, could do with some new clothes, but what I wear is no different to others!!!!! I have long blonde hair, blue eyes, am a size 10, small and I always do my make up but alas he thinks I am a frump, he is not god himself, he has put on a lot of weight ammong other bad habits!
So tell me am I am frump??? Many of you know me, some have seen me/ met me, what do you think????
A very down Lorraine. x
Posts: 3163 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 13 July 2005
Oh Lorraine Did you tell him it upset you? You don't sound like a frump to me! How horrible of him to say that Were you having an argument? Big hug xxxxxxxxxxx
Posts: 2155 | Location: Winchester, UK | Registered: 04 January 2006
Well no arguement as such, he just said it cos he was being smutty and I did not approve! I try to make an effort, my mum says I dress too young and hubby thinks I am a frump, I can't win!
Posts: 3163 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 13 July 2005
I don't think he can really mean it. It sounds like it could be more of a throw away comment in reaction to your reaction to what he was saying. If that makes sense. I'm sure he really doesn't think you are a frump.
Posts: 2155 | Location: Winchester, UK | Registered: 04 January 2006
Oh hun. How dare he say that to you. You are so not a frump!!!!! You are lovely and do make an effort. And don't forget i know coz i have seen u hun! Tell DH to start being nice for a change or i will be up there to sort him out. From what i have seen pic wise, he's not the hunk of the century (sorry don't mean that nastily) so he should look at himself before having a go at others.
Thanks Rhi, yeah he has let himself go a fair bit lately! I try to make an effort as much as I can with 3 kids to run about after, some days I don't look as good as I maybe could but I sure don't think I am frumpy, bet if I dressed sexy he would call me a slapper or tart!
MEN!!!!!!
Posts: 3163 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 13 July 2005
Have you noticed how men are very quick to point out when we've not done our make up today or our hair is a bit messy - yet they go beserk if you mention those extra inches they're piling around their middle! They are all, unfortunatley mostly the same - very unusual to find one that isn't. DO not take his comments to heart - men are insensitive for a pastime - mostly, bless them, they don't realise how hurtful they're being!
Can't live with em can't live without em sadly!
Me 31 DP 25 DS1 - 5 DS2 - Born 22.5.08
Posts: 752 | Location: Somerset | Registered: 04 July 2007
Today he said what is wrong with you???? I said I just checking that I don't look frumpy, he said oh for gods sake! I said well you say I am!!! he just huffed! Then I said he was a fat Bas**rd and he said you B**ch! I said well not nice is it??? I hate it when I make an effort and he never even notices! Yet others tell me how nice I look, IF he notices he says 'Have you been seeing someone else?'
Tell me what am I to do? Maybe I should dress daggy and then he can moan cos I will look like frump haha haha.
Posts: 3163 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 13 July 2005
Sometimes I think that we'd be quite justified to top them - not a judge in the land would condemn you after that comment!
Anyway hon if it makes you feel any less frumpy I went to a school disco today with my DD in a pair of very saggy joggers (just need to be comfy at the mo so sod it!), and a football hoodie (the top and bottoms are 2 sizes different and post baby neither quite fits right). I've just realised I have a mono-brow which has gone un-tended since DD hid my tweezers, I dont even know where my make up bag is, I've not had my hair done in 11 months, and the less said about leg shaving right now, the better.
If DH complained I would be forced to remind him that I have granted him the gift of 2 beautiful children at great physical cost to myself, and if he wants to go and find a better catch he can try - nobody would stick around too long with an insane unkempt ex in the background! Lol
On a serious note i think many blokes are genetically programmed to say stupid things, the good news is that they can be trained out of it! So far its taken me about 8 1/2 years but we are getting there!
And just to make you feel blessed that it wasn't a FAR worse comment the best one ye from my DH was about 6 months in to our relationship when one night he told me, and I quote "its alright I don't really go for pretty girls anyway!" - NICE!!!
Want to swap?!
Cxx
Posts: 258 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 07 June 2006
Were you having an argument? 
