Congratulations all on your pregnancies, great news.
Lozzie, I had a similar feeling to you. I wasn't looking forward to telling anyone because I didn't want them to judge me. I didn't want the "oh was that an accident?" and "you've got your work cut out for you". In the end I realised the only important thing was that I was happy with it but it did take some time. Chin up and remember, you don't need to tell anyone if you don't want to, it's none of their business !
Julie
Posts: 114 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 04 August 2005
i spent the first few weeks walking around saying 'bugger, oh bugger' under my breath!
i kept thinking of things i wouldn't be able to do (even stupid things like a new rollercoaster near us!) and being upset about it, then somewhere along the line it changed and although i am still anxious about how on earth i'll cope i am happy to be pg now and looking forward to baby no 2. and i don't mind telling people we got caught out, it doesn't bother me now so if they know i don't mind.
right, off to put feet up before collecting ds from nursery (my luxury time )
oh and double buggies, any thoughts? tips?
Posts: 268 | Location: Essex, UK | Registered: 28 July 2006
Lozzie so glad to see you on here - I posted you a message on the May/June thread letting you know I was here as I've on that thread too. Although it's still early days for me, I'm certainly still not used to the idea and it really really hasn't sunk in and, like you, don't think it will til i've had the scan. It was a real shock to me and DH as we had real trouble conceiving our DD (took over a year and a round of clomid) so really thought it would never happen again - doh. I gave up BF and then bang, there you go. I was planning on having a real drunkfest this crimbo and new year as I was heavily pregnant last year, but there you go. Another booze-free christmas!!!
I've had these stupid feelings of guilt too about DD and how she won't have so much time on her own with me before little one arrives and guilt about how I don't feel so excited this time round but inside I am kind of excited, and I think part of it is just the dread of telling people for the same reasons as Julie said - the whole kind of 'What did you think you were doing??' attitude (especially my boss who is completely inflexible as it is!!)
anyway enough moaning from me. I'm not sick in this pregnancy so far but just exhausted and don't have weekends to recover from work this time as I'm looking after DD. Oh, and whose idea was it to put the clocks back?????? My DD has been waking up at 5.30-6am every since!!!!!!!!
Totally understand where you are coming from. Re guilt for DD and coming to terms with the reality. The scan will make it more real for you and then more exciting. I was pleased telling family... and friends I've started to tell. Just work I am dreading. I am chuffed to bits but even today running into the supermarket I realised that 2 babies to put in a trolley is not going to be easy!
Part of me is still thinking 'bring it on' - can't be that bad. Years ago women had big families and survived the mayhem. Then I think 'what do you think you're playing at, you're not invincible!' Trouble is i did want another one soon, just didn't expect it to be so soon. Fate called my bluff Evie was really whinging today and I did think - I am mental. But I have always wanted to follow my own path, if someone tells me to something one way I usually do it another - quite contrary!
I wasn't sick with DD or this time, felt nauseous on 2 days. Another reason why i needed the scan to confirm it wasn't in my head. I feel chuffed that you are here to go thru it with. And it looks liek since you've posted the thread we are def not alone. That's why I love these DHH boards - someone will have been thru it already good or bad.
Right off to put my feet up, feel shattered.
Love Lozzie x
Posts: 409 | Location: Bedfordshire | Registered: 23 August 2005
Thanks Katy and Julie - it is reassuring to see these are normal feelings. I can't wait til I feel the flutters and then i won't be able to contain my excitement!
I know they shouldn't count but how were other people's reactions? My work are really good about working mums but I don't want them to feel oh here we go, taking the mick! To my mind I'll prob end up working til I'm 60 so that's at least 28 years they could still potentially get out of me. Against 9 months it's hardly going to bankrupt them.
How are you both managing logistically? I mean Katy your toddler must want picking up still - is that feasible or do you have to sit down with him now, coz it would be a strain on your back and bump. Julie - do you have a double buggy? How have you found getting around. Isabelle sounds adorable with him. I was thinking of getting Evie a doll for her birthday and then we can make a fuss of it together over the next few months - put it to sleep, feed it, change it's napy - bit of a game. Then when no 2 pops along hopefully it won't be too much of an adjustment and she'll feel part of it. Might not work but I'll give it a go.
Thansk again for popping on Lozzie x
Posts: 409 | Location: Bedfordshire | Registered: 23 August 2005
Lozzie - love your idea of a doll and changing it and so on. That sounds fab and might think of it myself in the new year!!! You are so lucky you're work will be quite understanding.. am sure you've read some of my rants and raves on the May/June post about my work, so it looks like I probably won't go back to work with number 2, which means we'll be skint for a while, but hey ho. We just have to save loads in the meantime!!
Katy t - aaaarrrgh double buggy.... I found it hard enough buying one first time round!!!!! No idea as yet what we'll do but happy to take any advice as you're much nearer to needing one than me!!!
And I haven't even thought about logistics - think I probably won't leave the house for about six months!!!!
hi all, yes i've had those guilt feelings too, meant to give ds more me time before introducing a sibling & of course there's the other guilt of how the new one won't get anywhere near the attention and time that ds got because of the small gap, but i have to hope they'll have benefits too, and get on, be friends, etc. [tho i have some doubts about this as my sis and i have 14months between us and have hated each othe most of our lives!!]
loocy - i had a pg christmas, then a bf christmas, now a pg christmas, maybe another bf christmas if i carry on as long as last time, and will i be pg with no 3 the year after???? ah well.... (with you on the clocks, tho ds has finally settled down again, you?)
best comment has got to be Fil who said: 'what are you, rabbits?'
lozzie - i keep thinking like you, bring it on, how bad can it be??? but i have a friend who's 2nd had terrible colic for 12 weeks and it was a nightmare, better after that tho.
lozzie - i can still pick up ds but i am much more careful, bending knees not back, etc. and it is so easy to do too much and do in my back or hips. i do try to get down on the floor and give him a cuddle if that's all he needs, plus i try to get him to walk as much as poss, holding hands or reins. the doll idea is good, we have one (just a cheapie from wilkinsons), and i talk about the baby in my tummy (he doesn't really get that tho!), and i talk about the baby stuff that we're getting ready.
double buggy: big q i suppose is side by side or inline, i prefer side by side but you can't get through lots of doors. hoping not to use it too much so going to try and get a cheap second hand one. plus i want to get a buggy board and get ds using that as much as poss. plus there's the poss of using a sling and a buggy, have lots of slings from last time that i shd use more.
tried ds in a bed for naptime but no go today, will try again tomorrow, wanted him in a bed asap anytime from now. planning to get some baby stuff down from loft once he wakes up. oh and got appt through for his testicle descent operation (orchiopexy - great name hey?), 12th dec. which is great as i wanted out of the way before baby 2 arrives.
right, sorry waffled on, must go for a wee! keep well, kt
Posts: 268 | Location: Essex, UK | Registered: 28 July 2006
katy LOL. I am soooo pleased you said that about your sis, as so many people say when you have them close together they will play together and grow up really good friends, but there's 14 months between me and my brother as well and we fought ALL the time when we were growing up!!!! We kind of get on well now although I still find him impossible, but that's brothers for you!!!!
And to be honest, I think the second one will never get the attention that the first one got, no matter what the age gap is!!!
Hey girls! On buggys... there isn't a door I've not made it through (and I go into town everyday) with my Mountain Buggy Urban http://www.mountainbuggy.co.uk/ Love it and would buy exactly the same again if I ever had to for some reason. Its brill as you can have a carrycot on one side for the baby and the normal seat on the other for your toddler.
hey summer, thanks for those links, they look really good, dunno if i can persuade dh to fork out for a new one tho, may have to watch out on ebay. i don't fancy the phil and teds either, feels mean putting one underneath!
well, big night tonight, took down the cot earlier and ds is in bed, asleep, dah dah!!! im so happy, he went straight out and was so excited beforehand. he wouldn't let go of his milk, a first too, so i crept in a few mins ago and took it away, and he didn't even stir. he looked soooooo cute in there! awwww
so, waiting for bumps in the night, and hopefully naptime will go well tomorrow too.
right, dinner here, must go, kt
Posts: 268 | Location: Essex, UK | Registered: 28 July 2006
just bumping up the thread in case there's any newbies out there daft enough to want to join??! Tabbycat, hope you'll be here soon !!!!
Am hoping everyone's pgs are going well so far. I am just so utterly exhausted all the time at the minute - feel like all I want to do is curl up into a little ball and go to sleep!!!!
Kt - any news on the double buggy yet? have you decided???
I hope all is going well for you and you are sailing through your pregnancies
As for the double buggy issue, it is definately a difficult one. We did a lot of research and in the end opted for a Mutsy with a duo seat and a single seat and buggy board for later. You can see it at www.mutsy.nl Luckily my Mum and Dad bought it for us. I really like it as it is not that wide or long so handles more like a normal buggy and Isabelle can see where she is going and when George gets bigger he can too. As far as cars go, your boot will be full of pushchair whichever one you go for !!
However that said I did buy a second hand McLaren twin techno for when we travelled to the USA recently as it folds down easily to get on the plane. Although we did look at the Jane PowerTwin and that does fold down like a normal pushchair but took up the whole of our boot. We have an Audi A4 estate.
Hope this helps with your search Julie
Posts: 114 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 04 August 2005
Evie was really whinging today and I did think - I am mental. But I have always wanted to follow my own path, if someone tells me to something one way I usually do it another - quite contrary!
