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we have a 2 bedroom house and are trying for baby number 2...however cant stretch to a bigger house and go part time to be with children so will have to wait to buy bigger when the children are abit older.

Question:
do you think its ok to have 2 small chldren in a 2 bedroom house sharing a room?

Choices:
yes
no

 

My twins are nearly 5 and they still share and i have many friends who's kids are different ages and they share too. I think there is a law around somewhere that says something like kids of different sexes arent supposed to share past the age of 7, i have never looked for the law, but some people have told me this.....could be rubbish mind. When you have number 2, wouldnt the baby would be with you to begin with anyway.

thanks for your reply, yes baby number 2 would be in with us for a while. Just wondered what people thought. We just cant afford to buy a bigger house and have another child at the mo, im 30 and dont want to leave it years. we have a 2.5 year old so thought if we had nother soon at least they would both be small together and then i can go back full time when they are both at school. its hard to know the right thing to do . i grew up sharing with my sister till I was around 12 and never felt "damaged"!!

You will do whatever you feel is right for you. At the moment we live in a 2 bed, nothing wrong with the kids sharing (other than waking each other up in the morning). As long as the children are loved, happy and content, then sharing is not harming anyone is it. Wishing you lots of luck and PMA for baby no. 2.

I dont think its a problem at all, there will come a time when they need their own privacy but while they are still little i think its perfectly fine!

thanks girls, sometimes its all about how big your house/car is isnt it and it makes you feel your failing by not having a big house and large garden! x

LOL we have 5 kids and a 3 bed house; the 11 and 12 year old share as do the 7 and 9 year old and the LO is in our walk in closet!!!!!! Only if you know american houses can you appreciate this-it works just fine for us

Hi,
We have 2 boys weekdays plus my stepson on a weekend, and now 2 girls, the boys have a bunk bed and my stepson a bed in the same room, so there are 3 boys in there wekends, and my daughter will have to share when the new baby is big enough for a bed.

They love it and even if i had the room would keep them together, they miss each other when they are away, a few weeks ago my 7 year old had to stay alone in his room and he said he couldnt sleep alone!
My stepson also comes from a big family and shares and every few weeks my kids are away so he has the room to himself, he too says he misses the others and prefers it to be all of them!

The law i think says with different sex children once the eldest reaches 7 they should be in different rooms but my dd and ds share a room when they stay at their dads because its more appropriate than the alternative.

As someone else said as long as they are happy and well cared for, talking of which there is a rather smelly nappy next to me needs changing!

Best wishes,

Pinky xx

Hi
The others are right there is a law that state that children of the opposite sex should not share a room on a perminate basis, after the age of 9, this is due to the start of puberty looming. I was told this when I went apply for a council house a few years ago. When my ds1 comes to stay he shares with ds2 and they are 15 and 8. Also my dh shared a bedroom with his brother till he left home at 22

Hey hun,

I'm in a 2 bed flat at the mo and my 4 year old dd and 3 year old ds as sharing. They love being together. The last time my dd stayed over at her friends house my ds cried because her was lonely lol! We're in a council place and have been told that they can share by law till dd is 11, which I personally think is a bit too old. But when we move into a 3 bed place my 2 girls will have to share (have a 6 month old girl too).

So basically I think that when they're small it's fine to share but as they get older different sex children shouldn't have to share. As long as they're the same sex that's fine. My girls will have to share till they leave home.

Hope that helps xxxxxx

thanks peops we are trying for another baby, we have alot of friends who are both on similiar joint salaries due to no children at present. I had a well paid job in sales when i fell pregnant with my daughter but didnt want to go back to it as wanted to be able to leave on time to get back to her....and i also went part time to be with her. We dont have tonnes of spare money at the moment, but dont want money to govern us having another child. Its hard we both work very hard and dont get anything other than child benefit which doesnt go far does it ladies!!!!

i'm from a big family (3 brothers, 2 sisters) and had to share a room with my little sister until i left home at 17. yes she did drive me nuts but it wasn't too bad. i'd much rather have shared with one of my brothers though, as we got on better!

although i appreciate your concern i dont think you should let a thing like the size of your house govern whether or not you have another child, like the others say if you do have children of a different sex you've got until your DD is 9 to come up with an alternative and who knows where you'll be in 6 years time??

good luck TTC, lots of babydust from me x x

love

karly x

Hi, just wanted to say that my children at different points have had to share bedrooms and they really liked it, miss each other when they don't share. With regards to the law about sharing, i could be wrong, but i think that only applies to council and housing association properties as they have a duty to provide appropriate housing, i am pretty sure it does not apply to people who own their own properties.
Heidi xxx

ive been thinking thesame thing. i have a 2yr old girl and am expecting again. would love a boy but kinda be better if i have a girl for sharing rooms as we only have a 2 bedroom house. i shared with my brother who is 5 years younger than me until i was 18!!!!! i hated it was so awful.

We rent a 2 bed house and can't afford to move into anything bigger round here. Daisy has had her own room up 'til now and the boys have been in with us... but in the next couple of weeks we are swapping bedrooms with Daisy so all 3 kiddies will be in our old bigger room and dh and I will squeeze ourselves into Daisy's old room.
Even contemplating baby number 4 now... with a bunk they'll all easily fit in the big room

I'm sure Daisy will want her own space in a few years time.. but I enjoyed sharing with my brother 'til I was nearly 9 and he was 6.