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Hey ho,
Hope everyone is well

Scan was 1st thing this morning...
As I'd somehow just known... it wasn't the greatest news today.
Little Tom has grown a little but not at the rate at which he was. Jake is now just over 2lbs and Tom is just over 11oz. His dopplers are much the same and his max pool depth is slightly increased and hes managed to turn head down (has always been breech 'til now), but the consultant thinks that his growth will pretty much stop in the next few weeks. As she put it... she doesn't necessarily expect that the heartbeat won't be there in 2 weeks at my next scan, but things aren't looking good.

Its really hit me again now... its tortuous seeing them both being so active but knowing we'll just have Jake (hopefully) at the end of all this

Oh Summer............it breaks my heart just reading about it so goodness knows what its doing to you.
Little Tom is hanging in there though.....he may just surprise you all yet but if not then you are a little prepared for it all.
That 30 weeks is creeping up........won't be long hun.
Was 30 your goal to reach as it would be a good chnace for Jake if you were to go into labour or was for another reason?
Have they agreed to see how Tom gets on and for you not to have to make any decision on anything now ?

Hugs to you xxxxx

Peardrop..........you ok hun........worried about you.
If you need to chat then mail me zoe_catlin@yahoo.co.uk always a good listener

xxxx

Hows everyone else?

Happy b'day Ali....................sorry I missed saying it on the day.

All is well here.............Violet is a good girly.........some nights she'll onlt wake up once and others twice so not too bad.
I'm gald I bought the crib as that stays upstairs and she sleeps in her bouncy chair in the day and I think she's learnt that when she's in the crib that its bedtime and she always goes straight to sleep at night and after feeds.
She's still sleeping loads in the day but has a good kick late afternoon early evening and is smiling quite alot.

Got our 6 week check on friday.......I haven't had her weighed for a few weeks so hoping she's put on abit.

I'm feeling abit miserable at the moment........same old story.........not happy here in this village...........feel abit isolated and unsettled.
Being stuck here day in day out isn't helping much!
Seem to be rowing with DP over silly things.......not sure if its me being arguementative or him being annoying as usual !


Oh well push on !

Summer so sorry to hear the news about little Tom. just don't know what to say hun. can't begin to think how you are feeling you know we are all hear for you.xx


Zoe how are you? good to hear Violet is being a good girl and sleeping well

Babyusa i was on iron tablets before i was pregnant with Lily and having blood test every three months as it was really low it was getting better but being pregnant and losing all that blood after having Lily. feeling alot better now so hopefully it will be up next time.

Ali sorry its late HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Peardrop sounds like Alfie loves he's food. sometimes they can get abit of a upset belly when the go from breast milk to formula hope he's ok now.

well all is ok here i am very happy with myself been feeding lily for 7weeks now i only feed the boys for and week or two.i have been expressing the last few days and lily likes the bottle and she goes every 3-4 hours in the days and sleep abit longer at night the last two nights she has gone from 8 till 5.

hope everyone is ok and babies are doing well
talk soon off to bed now

Summer, it's so heartbreaking reading what you are going through. I so hope little tom will pull through and prove you all wrong. ((((((hugs))))

Zoe, Hope you are ok hun? Thanks for your offer of advice. I know you are a fab listener and i love your level headed words of wisdom.
I know how you feel living in a place you don't really like....i feel exactly the same, i live in a lovely village but it's so boring and isolated. I so want to move back to where i used to live but DH has a really good job with an excellent future and i would feel so awful if i told him how i felt. Actually, i think he knows how i feel but doesn't talk about it. I feel like i've given up so much for him, i've left all my friends and family to move here and i miss home so much. The past few weeks i've actually gone back to stay with my mum for a few nights and i don't really think DH likes it as i take Alfie with me too and i suppose he misses us both, but i need to do it for my sanity and for the nice nostalgic feeling of visiting some of my old haunts.
It can be really lonely sometimes, but if you ever want to meet up for a coffee just to escape for a while and for some adult conversation i'm not too far away from you.
Does DP know how you feel?

Joanne Thanks for the advice re-colic. I bought some Colief yesterday and have started using it this morning so we'll see how we go.
I had my 6 week check yesterday and Alfie now weighs a stone The doctor told me to watch his weight. I don't now how on earth i'm meant to do that, he eats when he's hungry and stops when he's full how can i leave him to scream if he's still hungry
Alfie took 7 ounces this morning but he's such a big bonny baby that he obviously needs it. I don't see how a baby can overeat!!
Anyway, i think the time to be careful is when they are on solids and giving them healthy options like pureed fruit and veg and stuff. Maybe i'm wrong

Just added a couple more pictures of my Chunky Monkey!!

Awww thanks Peardrop...........that would be lovely.
Yes DP knows how I feel but probably the same as with you we take all the strain and worry and they just drift along without a care!
He plods along in a kind of ' not fussed where we live ' kind of way..........well he gets out to work and has changes of scenery everyday and I have more time to dwell on it.

I just think it would help if he was more enthusiastic about changing where we live instead of letting me worry about it all.
Given up moaning too much about it with him....he just doesn't get it and isn't the most supportive person I know!

I completely understand you're need to stay with your mum and all that's familiar.........its a very vunerable time for us at the moment and I always feel alot happier on days when my Mum pops over.........just wish she could get over more often.......nice to have help and it takes my mind off how miserable I feel living in this area.
I hate to whinge as I'm so lucky having my 3 healthy kids and hate to seem complacent but I just feel I would be that little bit happier in a village with more life and somewhere where I could get out and about.

I bet my DP wishes I'd keep my worries to myself like you Peardrop........not sure how you stop yourself from pointing out all that you've given up................which is a hell of a lot by the sounds of it.
I guess like you said your hubby misses you both when you stay at your Mums but that's a better option than being fed up......and you need to keep hold of your sanity when you have a little one to look after

I love Alfies little cool hair do !!!
He's so cute........he looks bonny and what your Doctor was going on about I don't know.
He was born a big baby and stands to reason he'll be eating lots and gaining lots of weight..........that's a good thing.
Don't you start worrying........Mabel was a real chubby baby and I mean chubby!!!
She had rolls of fat all over and litle bracelets round her wrists.......I'd forgotten just how chubby she was until I saw a photo of her recently.

It nice to have a baby that feeds well.........my sister's little girl was terrible at feeding and my Sister would get told off by the HV for not feeding her enough but she was just a difficult baby and still at 6 she picks at her food!

xxxxx

Hi Kerry..........you ok hun?
Glad Lily is doing well and well done you for keeping up the breast feeding xxx

Summer.....hope you are ok xxxxxxx

Hello everyone else

P.S Summer you look very radiant in your new bump picture xxx

Babydust your little one is sooooo cute too xxx

Hi everyone

Hope you are all ok. Thanks for the birthday wishes - I had a lovely day but boy, am I knackered at the moment. Darcey is still proving difficult to settle after a night feed, so I am existing on about 5 hours sleep a night - not great, especially when you have to get up to do the school run the next morning!!! Dp is finally off work (he has had one day off in the last fortnight) but he is knackered too - so what do you do (I don't think men are as cut out for sleep deprivation as we are - must be something hormonal!!) Oh well - she will be six weeks on saturday - maybe things will start to turn around then. I am still breastfeeding, and so want to continue but the thought of bottle feeding is becoming more and more appealing. I feel like I've been carrying her around constantly for the last five weeks - my biceps are doing great though!! The other thing is that my boobs are so huge (I'm normally a nice 34B/C) and I feel really frumpy!! Comfort eating chocolate isn't helping either. Well that's my moan over - it's so great that you guys are all here (and more importantly probably understand where I'm coming from!!)

Back to everyone else - Zoe I'm so sorry you're not happy in your village. This is not the best time to feel isolated at all. We're here for you hun if it helps.

Summer - sorry to hear about little Tom although he defo seems to be a little fighter and may yet surprise everyone!! Keep smiling hun - you've got this far and Jake is soldiering on too. xxx

Peardrop - if going to your mum's keeps you sane then go. Dh will have to put up with it I'm afraid. I know that he misses you and Alfie but a happy mummy results in a happy baby so do what you have to. As for Alfie's weight, my dd (Rachel) put loads on after she was born but now at 7 she is slim and gorgeous. You're right though, just watch what you're doing when it comes to weaning and he'll be just fine.

Hi to everyone else - Kerry, Babydust, BabyUSA etc etc hope you are all ok and babies are doing well.

We haven't got our six week check until 6th Nov (when she'll be eight weeks!!) and it's combined with first immunisations - terrific!!) HV is coming here again next week, but apart from that we're being left very much to our own devises!! Anyway - will have to go and feed her in a mo before my right breast explodes!!

Take care all

Ali + Darcey
xxx

Hi Ladies
Where is everyone hiding??? LOL

Peardrop you can get colief on prescription if it works for Alfie hun... Its amazing to think 2 drops does the trick, Mind you my GP is stingy with it I have to order it weekly off him & well I asked for two as were going away on saturday & was told to put another request in, The joys LOL.

Joel will be 9 weeks tomorrow & weighs 10lb 12oz, Nearly double his birth weight, I really would'nt worry about HV or other proffessionals wingeing about weight, they been doing it too me for years LOL, And i put about 5 stone on carrying my little darling...

Zoe I know you only recently moved but can't you move again. Your sanity is more important.

Summer my thought are with you hun!! I just hope both your boys hang in there..

Got to dash Joel crying

Take Care all
Joanne x

Just a quikie as we have visitors but just wanted to say Ali-stick with the breastfeeding if you can as it is probably a 6week growth spurt-you've lasted this long and a bottle won't necessarily help to settle at night. Liberty sleeps through from 8.30-to at least 4am on just breastmilk-the downside is I got my first AF on monday I was looking forward to a few more AF free months. Oh well got to dash-hello to everyone-thinking of you all x x

Hi Baby - thanks for the words of encouragement. I'm still hanging in there - taking it in bite sized bits at the mo - next target to reach is next wed when HV coming to house. If it is a growth spurt then hopefully things will have settled down by then. Take care.

Ali
xxx

Justed put new pictures on msn

Hope mummies and babies are all well

Hi everyone

It's very quiet on here at the mo - we must be very busy with the new arrivals!! My house is very quiet too - dd and ds have gone to their dad's for a few days, dss has gone back to his mum's and dp has gone to work so it's just me and Darcey - which is very strange as normally it is noisy and chaotic!!!

I've just had a proper look on msn at all the pics - aren't all the babies lovely (not that i'm at all biased) - I think we did very well girls. Anyway, hope you're all ok. Catch up soon.

Ali + Darcey
xxx

Hi girls and babes

Sorry I've not been on in a while.

Good to hear most of you are well.

Wheres Missc and Autumn.........don't think they've been on here yet!
Hope they are ok.

Hi jo.......yes will try and exchnage or something.......just takes a while and need to find the right place....meanwhile we're stuck here!
Glad your coleif stuff is doing the trick !

Ali...you ok hun?
Keep plodding on with the breastfeeding but if you want to go to formula then don't feel bad about it....you've done really well breast feeding for this long x

Peardrop...hows you hun?
I must say you look radiant in that photo of you and Alfie.....yummy mummy!

Kerry your little one looks so cute too and I love the photo of her laughing.....she looks so cute.

Babyusa.....hope you are getting lots of help from your visitors.........has your Mum sorted out a time to visit yet ??

Summer.........posted you on your Jan thread....hope you are ok ( and your twins )xxx

I read Babydusts birth story on the Aug thread yesterday...........doesn't sound like she had a very good time of it.

Where's Rooster ?

All good here.................Violet has a cold though AGAIN.......poor thing.......the kids are off playschool this week and with all this wet weather we are all driving eachother mad

Oh whats everyone feel about the immunisations and the 2 extra ones they have added on now ? Bit worried about that but not much we can do about it really.
Anyone got their dates through yet for that?
Apparantly the extra ones they have added are flu and Men c and that's to the standadrd Polio and tetnus etc etc..............and USA have had these 5 all together since 2000..............has their been any controversy about it like the MMR .....Babyusa???
I worry about their little immune systems handling all those vaccines at once.............I know its best to immunise but I wish the NHS wouldn't lump them all together to save money when they add new ones on!

I've just added some pictures on MSN.

Hugs to all

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Hi Ladies, hope everyone is well. We're very quiet here lately aren't we?! We're all too busy with our bundles of joy!

Ali, hope you are managing to get more sleep. Not sure how i'd cope on 5 hours, i really need my sleep.

Joanne, Alfie has been on Colief now for a week and can see such an improvement. We had ran out of it last night and he screamed the house down. I made DH drive all the way to a tesco extra to get some more last night
It works wonders! Glad to hear Joel is gaining weight well.

Hi BabyUsa, hope all is well with you and Liberty.

Kerry, liitle Lily looks adorable.

Zoe, Hope you are ok? Thanks for your encouraging post the other day, i kept meaning to reply but Alfie has kept me so busy.
Thanks for your compliment too, not sure about yummy mummy though.....i think that was the first time i'd managed to put a bit of slap on
I hope Violet is ok with her cold. Alfie had caught mine a week ago....i felt so guilty. He got over it in a couple of days though...you don't realise how resiliant (sp) babies can be sometimes.
We got his appointment for his immunisations through for next week but i am on holiday then so re booked it for the following week. I'm quite happy about the extra ones esp the men c. I know what you mean about their immune systems handling all the vaccines at once but i really don't have much of a problem with it.
Violet is a little cracker isn't she? I love the picture of her with the pink ears on the hood. I love dressing Alfie up in like that with teddy ears. I bought him a reindeer outfit for christmas with antlers on the hood

Hope you are ok Summer, let us know how things are going.

Peardrop
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