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i have a little boy who wil be 4 in june and he has missed out on starting playschool last year because i could'nt get him potty trainned on time he is now 2 start school in sept and i still can not get him 2 use the potty,

he crys wen i put pants on him and wont sit on the potty and if he does sit on the potty he is crying and wont even try 2 do pee pees

i have tryed giving him a treat and charts but hes just not intrested it would be a great help if any one has any ideas because at this stage i am so worried he will not be using the tolet for starting school in sept

thanks

hey, sorry to hear your having trouble,

boys are alot harder to train than girls, maybe not push the potty on him, and focus more on the toilet or let him wear pull ups with pants over the top just to get him use to it or just leave him with nothing on hes old enough to understand when he is weeing tc so just ask him to tell u when he needs to go and take him to the toilet not all kids like potty's im sure he will do it when hes ready

I know it sounds strange, but you can buy little things to actually put in the toilet to give little boys something to um "aim" for! i cant for the life of me remember where i saw them but im sure ebay will have some on there! they were little blue things that sort of bob around on the top of the water - might be worth a try!

Hi Kitkat, Kate here from ttc thread

I couldn't get my ds to use a potty, he would cry about it then wee on the carpet. I spoke to our hv who advised putting undies on him and letting him wet them (I know it sounds horrible) ds hated it because the wet feeling wasn't nice so started getting used to the feeling of needing to wee.

He never got used to the potty so I bought a toilet seat from Mothercare and told him it was for when he was a big boy, that was it, he wanted to sit on it every 5 minutes because it was for 'big boys' He went from nappies to dry in 7 weeks. He's had the odd little accident since then but nothing major.

Another tip my cousin gave me (didn't work for us, but did for her) was to put the potty next to the toilet and when her dp went to the loo they'd encourage their ds to go too. Her dp would take a magazine and ds would take a little book Her ds took 12 weeks to train.

Good luck, buy loads of cheap undies (I got multipacks from Asda) a big bottle of Vanish for your carpet and a bag of patience

Kate
xxxx

Hi,

I agree with not pushing the potty on your son, he may feel more grown up using the toilet, my son trained straight to toilet standing up as he thought he was being like a daddy!
I took him shopping on his own and bought him some bob the builder pants i let him choose, i said they were for big boys and he loved the idea he was being a big boy.
He trained in a week, from nappies to pants! just decide a day and think no more nappies, it may be tiring and a pain wondering if he needs a wee constantly, put him in pants, explain to him why and if he wets try not to change him straight away just so he knows he is wet and dont make a huge fuss over him wetting.
Show him the toilet or sit him on it if he says he needs to go or you think he may, when you catch a wee make a huge fuss over how big and clever he is, only instant reward works with some children so charts dont always work.
You can try one, all or none of these things but its things that helped me, my son had speech problems and couldnt say he wanted a wee but he managed to let me know.

Good luck with things,
i hope this helps!

Pinky xx

Hi

Just wanted to say that i agree with the others, it's best not to make too big a deal. It will be warmer weather soon (hopefully) so hopefully by about may you can let run him around outside in the garden in just pants and a t-shirt, you won't be as stressed about accidents cos it outside and not on the carpet he will be a bit older and hopefully he will realise he has wet himself. If i am honest i let my son go commando ( in the garden)in the summer and then he actually got to see his wee come out, and then something "clicked" and he started using the potty, he was dry in 3 days!!!!
Heidi xxx

HI

kia thanks 4 the help yeah every 1 keeps telling me how boys are alot harder to train i will deffo try the pull ups i have'nt tryed them yet

kathryn those sound good lol i am going 2 look on ebay ASAP LOL

hey kate i think i am deffo going to try him more with the toilet but hes very small for his age so i will deffo have 2 get him the toilet seat like u said, we have tryed DH going 2 the loo and showing kian look daddy does does pee pee in the toilet but all kian was intrested in was 4 daddy 2 hurry up so he could flush the toilet hes such a cheeky monkey i had him after a m/c so he has been well spoiled 4rm day 1, i have bought him loads of pantz in asda i have now been puting pantz over his nappy which he has got used 2 thanks 4 the help kate i see u r on cd3 like me so good luck 4 this month hun xoxo

thinkpink how lucky r u potty trainned in 1 week wow i have been doing this on and off 4 nearly 1 year lol you are right i need 2 just pick a day and say no more nappys thanks hun


heidi-hi thanks i think him goin commando is a good idea because like u say he will see were the wee comes out and may b it will click in
thanks babe xoxox


thanks every 1 i will deffo use all ur advice

XOXOXOXO

kathryn i got the little balls for the toilet on ebay,they look like fun lol thanks again


xoxox

Fingers crossed they work - a mixture of everything on here has got to do the trick!

Hi you have my sympathies regarding the toilet training though my son is nowhere near starting toilet training yet despite being 4 years old as he is autistic, it is something I think about. Mind you he has begun to enjoy sitting on the big toilet with one of those toddler inserts from mothercare, I wait for the day when he actually pees .

I am curious though that you say your son is 4 years old in June and begins School in September, do you mean this year 2008? that seems early, as its when my ds starts and he will be 4 3/4. Maybe you mean pre school. We are lucky where we live that the pre school allows children still in nappies, my neighbour's son is still using pull ups and he is also 3 1/4.

good luck, I used to get fed up of people proudly telling me their son/daughter was toilet trained by 18 months/2 years old, it was irritating to put it mildly! Now I just let it slide, there are other things in life to worry about.

yeah kathryn i hope they work as i am running out of time for sept


crumble thanks for the suport u r lucky ur boy even sits on the toilet kian wont even sit on it lol yeah he starts school this sept if you are 4 here (northern ireland) b4 1st july then thats the year u start school so with him been a late june birthday he just made it by like 2weeks and will likely b the youngest in his class poor wee thing. hes very baby and his speech is very bad im really breaking my heart abt having 2 send him 2 school this year. last year he got in 2 pre school but then wen he was'nt potty trainned he lost his place which i was gutted abt because it would ave done him good 2 mix with other kids

i know wat u mean abt being fed up with people telling u abt there son/daughter trainned 4rm 18months i have people telling me all the time how he should be doing it by now and 2 b tough with him i was telling a friend 1 day how i thought kian was going 2 b very smart as he loves 2 sit and look threw books she told me hes not that smart wen he cant pee in the potty i also ave my health vistor sending him 4 tests 4 learning diff they cant see the lil boy i see and it makes me so mad how rude som people can be >

THANKS crumble and good luck 4 ur future potty trainning xoxoxoxo

Hi Kitkat,

um, that is young to start school. as for throwing him out of pre school because he wasn't toilet trained, thats so short sighted. Ignore what other people say and encourage your son with looking at his books and encourage him to talk as much as possible to help his speech, I doubt you are wrong if you think he is a bright spark.

Its a fact that the greatest minds in history often were slow to talk etc, Einstein is often quoted as not talking until he was 4 or 5 years old, there is more than one way to be intelligent. Our ds can't speak yet and has huge problems communicating but he is a wizz on computers and way quicker at it than the kids in pre school, they gather around him at the computer watching him work, yet they are all toilet trained and talking fit to bust.

The ideas listed above sound helpful and I am sure you will crack it if you don't push him too much.

The age thing is right here also, my son is 4 in July this year and will be starting school in September, going mornings until christmas and then from january full time.

julesrush

crumble-- lol abt Einstein i must rember that next time any one says any thing abt how slow kian is, thats great ur son is a wizz on the computers like u said encourage our kids is the best thing we can do for them, ur right i need 2 just ignore what any ones says because it just hurts me and makes me mad and when i feel like that im not much good 2 kian ,,

thanks again hun u seem 2 know wats its like 4 me and its good 2 hear 4rm people that know how it feels

xoxoxox

This message has been edited. Last edited by: KITKAT,

Hi,
Sorry to butt in between you but really ignore what anyone says about your children, they are yours and you know them best, all kids develop at different rates, we cannot even compare siblings as they will be different!
My son was diognosed ADHD after a long battle from me to get it recognised that he had problems,(he had violent outbursts were the main thing, punching, kicking, spitting, you name it, but as with everything there had to be a reason, this type of behavour is not naturally in children and with him it was frustration) his main issues now are social skills but gradually he will learn them, and last year his school report showed him at 7 to be at the standard of the national average for 7 year olds, i was so proud of him!!
He did not talk til late, i was worried no one would understand him at school, but he has come along so well and most importantly he is a lovely child.
My main point i suppose is that he was toilet trained at 2 and 4 months but did not speak recognisably til 5, at 7 he cant get dressed himself correctly or put shoes on but is really clever with his hands and building, for each thing he cant do is something he can.
Your son will have things he can do that other children at his age cant, and toilet training will come to him when he is ready, i am lucky with the school my son goes to, they are very understanding and a parent in your situation would have no worries about sending their child into school whatever his capabilities, what a shame more schools are not like that!

Good luck,

Pinky xx