Hi my name is Chaz & 2 years ago @ 14 yrs old i gave birth to a baby girl called Ella Mai. I have had no trouble with her as my parents and my boyfriend (Ella's dad) parents have looked after her & have been really supportive. Unfortunatly she is @ the stage where she wants to be with me & her father 24/7. What am i gonna do i am 16 years old & still attend high school (i leave in 5 weeks)? Me & My boyf would like tym to our self now we're 16 as we have not had sex since Ella was concieved as we were 2 scared. is it normal for children to want to spend all the tym with there parents? and what m i gonna do when i go 2 college in September?
PLEASE HELP!!!!
Chaz
Posts: 5 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 26 March 2004
hi i can sympathise, im 18 and iv got a 4 month old baby, i know im not in the same situation but i can give you some advice. yes its normal at 2 years old the only two people she mostly see's are you and your boyfriend so she only wants to play with you. have you tried taking her to a nursery where she can make friends maybe that way she'll want to go more often and you'll have time alone, besides if you wanna go to college you'll probably end up having to do it anyway. try leaving her with more people she'll be upset at first but she'll get used to it. hope i helped let me know x
Posts: 21 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 23 March 2004
My little girl is 14 months and has recently become clingy, like your little Ella Mai (beautiful name by the way!) Anyway, it really is perfectly normal for them to become really clingy to their primary carer and the worst thing you can do is push her away when she's being like this. Taking her to nursery etc is fine, but make sure you indulge her in attention at other times. Apparently, if you push them away when they are driving you mad by tuging at your trousers and following you everywhere, it can make them MORE clingy.
Sounds like you're doing a grand job Chaz. You should be proud of yourself! Ella Mai does need interaction with other children, so I do agree with youngmum, taking her to nursery to mingle with other children is always a benefit.
Good luck, in motherhood and at college! Nicola xxx
Posts: 22 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 03 March 2004
BY the way, with regards to being afraid to have sex, don't be. Just make sure you use condoms this time and start enjoying your sex life! You have SOOO many good things to learn..... Be safe xx
Posts: 22 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 03 March 2004
Thanx for your replys i took ur advise and i have enrolled her in a nursery for 3 mornings a week (for now) She is starting on monday and i hope she will start to play with other kids. when she wanted my attention or by boyfriends we gave it her and we found she wasnt asking for it as often. We had sex last night and it was really nerve racking for lots of reasons one was that we was scared that Ella was going to walk in and we didnt think it was right for a 2 year old to see that? i'll let you no how she gets on at nursery.
THANX
CHAZ
Posts: 5 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 26 March 2004
