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hi mums, i have a question that hopefully some of you can answer for me. i'm 18 and i have a 14 month old daughter. lately i've been feeling very broody. i really want another baby but i'm not sure now is the right time. i want to go back to school finish my eduaction but i also want another baby. my boyfriend is dead against but i have a different view on that situation. i figured that women should have the main say as they are the ones with the clock ticking. but back to my question. i want to have another baby but i dont know if now is really the best time. i was wondering if any of you mums could advise me otherwise, weather i should or not? should i wait til clodagh (daughter) is past the terrible two's? please help!!! speak to ya's soon

Hi Edwina,

My name is Nicola im also 18, i have a 15 month old son (Taylor) and im over due with my second! I cant say i was broody when i got pregnant with my second as Taylor was still only 7 months. It was strange to imagine at first, having to babies at 18. But now im really excited. I think its good to have a close age gap, i know its going to be hard at times, But think of how nice it will be for them when one 3 and ones 4. They will be able to play together and never feel lonely. I would say your right about it being a womans choice to say when you are ready, after all we do the hard work!

I would say go for it now! Good luck on what you decide.

Keep in touch
Nicola

Hye Edwina !! I don't think the gap between children matters for the children as no matter how big or small the gap is, feelings are the same between them. I have a 9 1/2 yrs old boy and a 11 mths old girl and personnally, I much prefer that gap. I was very young and unprepared for the first one, & 10 yrs down the line, I am appaled at the way I sometimes treated my son when I look back.And I thought I knew what I was doing !!!!! However, all this is personnal, and if you want another baby, the chances are that you will enjoy him/her and cope OK. Saying that though, I really don't think you should go ahead UNTIL your bf agrees to it. A baby is huge decision and should be taken together as otherwise, he could possibly resent you for it and all this is really negative in the long run. I decided to have my first one against my bf's wish at the time, and although he hung around for a little while, he ended up leaving me and never turned back. My son doesn't really know his father apart from pictures & few phone calls per year and that's it. All this is a shame, and I'm not saying that's going to happen to you, but it is a possibility which you may want to contemplate before you decide anything. OK, we women always end up rocking the baby, but children really do need both parents to be mentally balanced. Well, that's my opinion. Let me know your views on it and good luck.

hi mums thanks for your replies. me and my boyfriend have sat down and discussed the possibility of another baby and we're waiting for results coming from the doctor to see if i'm pregnant or not. i think the result will be negitive, though, but we've decided that if the results come back negitive on friday we're going to wait another while. we booked a holiday not long ago and i really want to go. if i'm pregnant then we can't. but we'll see on friday. thanks any way for your replies and advice. hope to speak to you's again some time.