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Hi Jack it's wonderful to hear from you. Big congratulations on the birth of Jake, what a lovely name To anyone who doesn't know, Jack started off this thread back in Jan 2006.

Yeah, I'm expecting that the house will just be mad!!! Our older two will be delighted it's another boy while our youngest will be dissapointed (well for about 5mins!) as he says he really wants a sister. We haven't told them yet that this is another boy as they would tell everyone!! Did you tell your boys or just leave it as a surprise?

I'm already planning to have another and I'm 35 while DH is 40 so we must be mad too!!! I'm looking into IVF and other options though as I don't think I could leave it to chance again.

Take care of yourself and your lovely family.

Christine how are you doing hun? I hope that all is well with you.

Elaine xx

Hi, Hope u don't mind me gatcrashing,

I remember this is quite an old thread and I posted on here before the birth of ds2.
I was delighted with my 2nd son but during the last few weeks, I have been yearning for a girl! I am 34 and ds 35 so time is our enemy and we also cannot really afford another one but I am going to do my hardest to persuade him! I would not be devastated if I had another boy so I would be happy to go with the odds!

Chele

HI Elaine

Hope everything is going well with the pregnancy and your little boy. It reminds me so much of me last year Jake was born in May.

Sorry it takes me so long to get back I'm so busy!!

We told everyone it was a boy - It was real that way.

Just out of interest are you really thinking about IVF/PGD and what are your thoughts about 5. I know that we researched it all while I was pregnant - not that I didn't love the baby but it helped somehow. Anyway you probably have a lot more to think about at the moment.

Take care and enjoy the pregancy - I wish I had more.

Love Jack

Hi Jack,

I just thought I'd peruse the boards for old times sake and what do I find ? You've had a baby girl!

I'm so thrilled for you. A huge congratulations on the birth of Gabriella.

I've come to terms with not having a daughter although I do get the odd pange of longing!

I am truely so excited for you. You must be going pink mad!

Tell me did you see 3 magpies? lol!

Love Christine

Hi,
Only just found this thread but just enjoyed reading over it!!

Salad...I understand exactly how you feel, When i got pg on my 1st my husband wasnt too bothered..I dont think, but unfortunatley i lost that one early on, nearly 6 months later i got pg again on our Dd, and he was really really upset and said he never wanted kids and we didnt speak for weeks, although living together. He finally accepted it all and we got on with it, whedn my Dd was 10 months old i found out i was pg again!!
After Ds was born he said no more, which for a while i accepted.. i went into modelling- against my Dh's wishes.. which caused huge problems, he knew deep down i wanted more kids really and he used this as a get out of the modelling!!! And i fell for it, 6 months later i was pg again..
You are probably wondering how i can understand how you feel..
well, after i had my 3rd, another girl, i was definate that i had finished my family and felt complete.. something i had never felt before, i never thought i would be able to stop those maternal pangs everytime i saw a baby, but it honestly didnt bother me.
My best friend got pregnant on her 3rd, and i didn't feel anything, no jealousy no broodiness- nothing, all through her pregnancy, even holding her as a newborn.. when she was 6 months old she was christened and so that my friend could go out in the evening i babysat all her 3 kids, that night i really felt that pang.. a desperate need for another baby.. i felt so empty, and knew that i had to have another..
I hinted to Dh but he wasn't having any of it, it caused a huge rift between us and i would cry every night (he works nights so never knew!!) He said if i wanted more kids it would have to be with someone else, i had a dream that he stood at the top of the stairs and said, "ok, i love you, we will have another.." and everytime i thought of that dream it hurt so much because i knew he REALLY didnt want more, i thought, well, i have 3 beautiful children, be happy with what i have, but it just didn't help at all..
I did something awful, and gave him an ultimatum.. not that i would have done it, but said if we didn't have another baby i didnt see the point in us being together as it would always come between us, and i would always think what if.. then someone told me, you can always regret not having more.. but never regreat having them once you have. This almost made me go crazy.
My MIL always tells me how much she regrets not being able to have more, a little girl especially as my Dh and BIL are her only 2 and boys.. she says she always looks at me as the daughter she never had..(Aww..)
Anyway as you can see from my ticker i am pg again and i never thought i would be,, Dh just came home from work one night especially to say, "ok, we will have another one because thats how much i love you!!" just like he did in my dream! in the same spot!! But.. i felt so bad, because of how it was, he did say that he didn't want to know and that i had to get on with it myself, not to expect him to be happy or anything, a so what kind of attitude,
But i am pleased to say, he is being really supportive and thinking of names, also he came to his 1st antenatal with me last week which he never did with the others!!

So all i wanted to say is, you never know, he might just change his mind, my Dh was so addamant there would be no more... but dont give up hope, honestly.

((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))

Emma. x

aah lovely story angel that's soo nice you're having the fourth baby you longed for. i'm one of six currently have one DS another on the way and can't imagine the maternal pang ever going away i'd love a house full too although DF would probably take some persuading!

Just to let you know salad, Jack doesn't come on here very often any more,(probably busy with all her kiddies, lol) i've known her since our old due in june 2006 days and was so happy she finally got her little girlie youAnnie too was on our thread as was Jayjay. you might want to pm her if you want to get in touch. Annie ended up with one of each, Ellie and Ross btw who are now not far off 2, how time flies.

Thanks Kalyjade!!!
I think sometimes i am a bit too open about the stuff i put up on here but if it helps people know they aren't the only one's then i dont mind!!!
I just hope my maternal pang goes and stays away this time, because we are seriously running out of space and now have to sell my car and get a 6/7 seater...boo! Didn't think about that before tho did i!!!! oh well..

As for the title of the thread and what it was that started this conversation in the begining, i just wanted to add my experience on that aswell,
When i was pg on my 1st Dd i was convinced she was a boy and even had bought a couple of boys thing..When i went for my scan i was horrified when they said girl and it took me a week or so to get my head around it, but we gave her a name and bought a few pink things and that kind of sofened it!
With no.2 i wanted a boy and got my boy, with no.3 wanted another Dd and got one!!
But this time i think my luck may have run out!!! I have no feelings of what this one is and said right from the start i wasn't bothered but as the weeks have gone on ive been swayed towards thinking i'd love another boy, and Dh & Ds want a boy, both Dd's want girl- but i think secretly i will be a bit gutted if its a girl, not so much for me but more for Dh because i know he'd love another lil' man!!
Well i only have a few weeks left until my scan on 20th feb.. so we shall see!
I'd just like to know either way so i can at least buy something! Why is it so difficult to but unisex things these days! Even babygro's are girl or boy themed!

TTFN,
Emma. x

Angel I like your input to discussions it always makes an interesting read! Good luck for your scan I’ll be lurking to find out whether it’s pink or blue.

Oh yes the thread title.. well I already have a little boy and would love a little girl this time. Didn’t find out the sex at the scan and now I’m getting very inpatient to find out! Everyone around me at the moment is having little girls, or has just had a little girl they’re everywhere and I’d soo love one myself. I feel rotton for thinking I might be a little disappointed if it isn’t a girl, but I know that will pass as when I find out I’ll be holding the little one in my arms and I’ll be overjoyed no matter what!

Don’t get me wrong I wouldn’t be unhappy about having a boy, it’d be nice for DS but it’s always nice to have one of each isn’t it? We’re planning on having at least four children anyway so hopefully at least one will be a girl!

A friend of mine is one of 7 children.. her mum had four boys and wanted a girl so bad they just kept going! The last 3 were girls. Now my friend has 4 children, all of which are girls and she’s dying to have a boy and so she’s hoping the same will apply and if she has another she’ll have a boy! I’m one of six, there’s 3 girls and three boys. If only you could determine the sex before hand without messing with nature..

Ha, Lol..Thats true!
I knew a lady who was friends with my mum when a was younger and she had 11 kids, they were mixed ie, girl boy girl boy etc..so dunno what her excuse was!! we went to their house once and the kitchen table was a tree trunk!!!! cut in half lengthways!!! omg!! it would have to be to fit them all around it! (it was btw an actual table made from tree trunk!! not just a tree in the kitchen Lol!!)

I was really upset by peoples reactions when i got pg on no.3 they would say things like "oooh, what you having another for, you already have one of each.." why? is there a set limit to how many kids you can have now?
I know a few people who have 3 kids of the same sex, 2 who have boys and 1 who has girls, i know the one with girls isn't all that bothered about having anymore or a boy for that matter, but the 2 with boys i know would love a girl!! so maybe there is something about a maternal drive to have a little girl!! I think every woman dreams of having a little girl to dress up!

Well enough from me!
Hope you get the pink bundle you are hoping for, shall be watching out for your news aswell, lol! I would love to have a surprise on the day but i hate waiting- for anything! so wil have to find out!

Emma. x

Hi!

Thanks for telling me your story Angel. I enjoyed reading it as it similar to mine. My longing for another child nearly broke up my marriage too along with the affair my husband had with a much older women! It still hurts so I try not to dwell on it and here is proberly not the time or place to either!

Anyway when we decided to try and make a go of it we decided he should have a vasectomy! So it is a bit final for me unless it doesn't work out and I meet someone else or a miracle happens and it reverses back (It can happen!)lol!

I don't really think about having another child as I know it is highly unlikely but I guess if it is meant to be, it is meant to be and if it is not, it's not! By thinking like this it helped me come to terms with things but I am only human and I do get the odd maternal pang!

Hi Kalyjade,

I do read your parenting thread occassionally to keep up with Jack and Jayjay as they were so kind and in the same boat about wanting a daughter so I was thrilled for Jack because I know exactely how she must feel now she has her precious baby girl!

I'm not sure if you know her but Elaine (Insommniac)
who also wrote on this thread. Have you heard anything from her as I'd love to hear how she is doing.

Love Christine

angel OMG 11 kids did they not have a tv in their house?! it must have been bedlam and lol to the tree trunk table surely they must have all ate and slept in shifts?!

i think i'd have been just the same if i'd already had a girl i'd want a boy then or feel like i was missing out. you know what - ignore people and their comments it's your womb your family your decision if you want more kiddies you shouldn't be judged for that. some people really get my goat.. the cheek of some of the things total strangers come out with, especially it seems when it comes to pregnancy woman have they no tact! i mean since when has it become acceptable to say 'oooh you're massive aren't you you look ready to drop!' erm no.. actually 2 months to go thanks very much!

* rant over sorry *

salad, i'm sorry to hear of what you've been through with your husband but i'm glad you've overcome the problems together.

sorry but i don't know insomniac maybe you could try sending her a PM?

take care

love

Karly x