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Hi Everyone.
I have a bit of a dilema to solve. It is my father in law's 60th birthday next february and he has decided to celebrate with a family holiday to South Africa.
My husband and I are invited and he really wants to go. We are trying for our first baby at the moment and really hope to get pregnant between now and february. I really do not want to go if I am pregnant by then. There are many factors that make me not want to go including risks of a long haul flight and illness and complications in a strange country.
My husband says we could just book it anyway and if I do get pregnant claim it back on the insurance. I don't think insurance will cover this. I have had a look at various policies and they all say will not cover if your due date is within 12-14 weeks of return. Nowhere does it say about refunds if don't want to go just because of being pregnant.
We need to make a decision this week as my in-laws want to book it soon. They do not know we are trying for a baby and we don't want to tell them.

Help!!! Has anyone else been in this situation? Any advice would be great.

Thanks
Wendy

Hi Wendy,

I am sorry but I really don't know what to advise. I am in a similar circimstance myself and it is a very hard decision to make. My husband would really like a holiday this summer but we want to continue trying for a baby. At the moment we have decided to carry on trying and then get a very late deal providing I am not pregnant.

The very thought of stopping trying for a baby in order to go on holiday really upset me, it's like that little bit of hope is taken away from you. I know that February is a long way off yet, but the chances are quite good that you could become pregnant before then and so I would probably not book anything. I suppose there is always the possibility that you could book something nearer the time if you are not pregnant.

When you are trying to get pregnant it is difficult to plan anything like this....you don't want to put your life on hold but on the other hand you could end up losing a lot of money if you pull out of the holiday at the las minute.

Not sure if any of this really helps, but I can understand your dilema totally.

Good Luck

Hi Lizzy,

It is good to hear I am not the only one in this situation. We have decided to tell his parents that we are going, but not book our flights till much nearer the time. There are quite a few other people going so they are booking a villa with about 7 bedrooms. It will not be too much of a bad thing if we don't go then.
I have told my husband that if I am pregnant, I am not going. I don't mind if he goes without me as long as it is not too near the event!!! I think we will be ok.
I have my fingers crossed for you getting pregnant. Thanks for your thoughts.

Wendy