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Kathryn and dippy are right why can't you post on as many threads as you want. When I was on here we had loads of differant ones, ttc, 2ww symptoms of 2ww, and even a chat thread for anyone whether ttcing or pg and lots of others like sue mentioned. Some times we would just start a thread because we wanted advice like we do on parenting, it kept us sane some days. Let's get over the bitchyness and name calling and get this forum back to what is was, a friendly and supportive place for women who are ttcing or PG. I lurked on here for months before posting and it is hard because you don't know how the others would react to but I was welcomed and got loads of support for the other girls such as sydney, sparklekiss, starsign and many others.

I still lurk over here and I won't be getting PG again.

jayjay

Babydust and pma to all ttcers

Awhhh girls thank you so much for your fab words, it really means so much to me.

Now THIS, THIS IS THE REASON I JOINED HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!!!! THIS IS WHAT THE SITE IS ABOUT!

Support, friendship and respect, it really does go a long way.

Love SueXXX

My turn!!!

Although I can't really add anymore than Dips or Sue or Peanut, just agree totally with what you all said.

I don't post on pregnancy anymore, so I didn't feel it was my place to post the other night, but I too was shocked and extremely sad at what I was reading.

A bit about me, I had a little boy, but we were trying for number 2. (nobody judged me for wanting another one when they were trying for number 1). I had suffered 2 m/c, which I would never wish the saddness of on anyone, and we were starting tests etc to find out what was going on. In the end we had a round of IVF which failed, but amazingly I fell naturally soon after. This took 4 1/2 years!!

Without this site and the wonderful ladies I met on here, some who are still here,(I would do anything to help you reach your dream) I don't think I would have had the strength to go through it all.

So please use this site for what it's for, somewhere to off load about ttc, make friends, and support each other. Not worry about who's posting where!!!!

Lots of love, babydust, and pma to you all

xx Nicki xx

seumac, thankyou for being the voice of reason!! i hope what all you girls have said, will make the culprits ashamed they were argueing and bitching in the first place Maybe all will get back to normal now. i felt sick reading the posts!!

Well posted Sue, thank you for this. I am a newbie to the site myself joined in January but only started posting 2 weeks ago as like you said it took a lot of courage. Once I got in to the way of it I really enjoyed it because I have not told anyone in my life other than my partner of course that we are TTC so to be able to come on here and talk to people is just amazing for me because other wise I prob crack and tell someone else in my life who I am not yet ready to talk to about it. I have been trying to get the TTC thread back to what it was when I joined a couple weeks ago. Thank you for your post.

I wish you all the luck in the world with your next lot of IVF! Baby dust and hugs going your way!

Clairey xxx

My god what has happened here this weekend? It is so sad.

I agree totally with what Sue has said. (Good Luck with your new IVF attempt)

I always believe you have the right to post where you want, not where other people tell you to, it is a democracy not a dictatorship.

I was so grateful to all of the girls whilst I was ttc, there advice and support was much appreciated and I hope I have been there for others when they needed it also.

There is just one thing I would like to say on the subject, from what I understand the post that has caused all this upset by this Shellbell was their first?
If so why have you all reacted to it?, Surely it would of been more sensible for you all to ignore the post and support each other against this person and not all fall out whilst this "Shellbell" is sitting at her PC revelling in what they have posted. They had not posted before, you girls have and have been supporting each other for varying amount of time.

We all have enough stress and heartache is our normal day to day lives, we do NOT need to carry it on in a website form !

There is nearly 1000 pages on the ttc thread, maybe some of you need to re read some of the first pages to remember what this forum is all about.

Take Care

Emma

Emma you are so right here is the link to the first 2ww and tcc threads.

http://community.homeandhealthtv.co.uk/eve/forums/a/tpc...56101191/m/374105891

http://community.homeandhealthtv.co.uk/eve/forums/a/tpc...1191/m/874105891/p/1

It makes for good reading.

Jayjay

Sue - i'd like to echo what the others have said, you hit the nail on the head there well dont for speaking out.

i too was saddened by the recent events on the forum, but didn't feel it was my place to get involved. I've been lurking/posting here for almost 3 years now and must say i have never seen anything even close to the viciousness that went on.

i first started posting on the pg boards when i was pregnant with my first, who is now almost 2. Although i've (thankfully) never had to post on the TTC boards i do, like many others like to keep track of what's happening on there, follow the ladies journeys and will them on to their BFP's. i am very fortunate to never have had problems TTC, or to have had a mc or even a BFN and reading these stories makes me thank my lucky stars every day. The strength of these women is amazing, how they can keep going after the things they go through everyday astounds me. How such an awful row can be caused by something so small is beyond me, we should be supporting each other, not name calling, taking sides and arguing.

i really hope that we can all put this behind us now, and that the ladies that have left will come back. I hope peace can be restored.

love

karly x

Well done Sue (and good luck with the IVF) and i just want to echo all the positive thoughts.

Let's get back on track and working towards those bfps/due dates/sleeping through the night/potty training/whatever your next goal as a woman or mum is

kt

Fertility thread/2ww thread/ttc thread/due May 06 thread/due New Year 08 thread/Parenting threads x 2/youn baby & pg again thread/etc......

Sue
Thank you for starting the thread that many of us wanted to but didn't have the guts. I have felt it wasn't my place to comment seeing as I finally switched over to a due in thread - just a few days after I announced to my 2ww pals I had had enough and was stopping the ttc lark for a while (how ironic is that - and its happened to a few of us on here!!!) But reading your post brought it all back to me - the way we did always support eachother and we all took the time to check out eachothers fertility friend charts and give words of encouragement when the temps looked good and hugs of support when they didn't. We sent hexes every month to those expecting the old witch and we always ended our posts with babydust to all. It was alot of fun winking and nudging during peak windows when we knew who was up to what and we all bit our nails in anticpation when we knew someone had a test day coming up. As Nicif has pointed out - there was no distinction bewteen those trying for no 1 and those trying for no 2 or 3. I can remember how nervous I was when after ttc for 14 months i decided I'd try out the ttc for 12 months and over thread....I was nervous as i thought I might not be welcome (ttc no 2) but i did and there were people like Cathy, Billy, Mantha (now my due in buddy!!), Dats, SJ and especially mummymich - who still nipped over once I'd conceived to see how I was doing and wishing me lots of love and best wishes. I chatted to sue and to crumble and others who's names escape me now but there was always so much love and respect. To hear that some of these fantastic ladies are thinking of leaving the site is devastating news to me - especially those leaving before they got chance to celebrate their BFPs with us. It feels as though for some people, the ttc thread has become just a gossip forum - it isn't and it wasn't - it is a vital lifeline for women like myself who suffered 2 losses after DS and still took another 16 months to conceive after that - it would have been hideous trying to cope with that all by myself and it gave me great strength to get through yet another BFN and also the problems my partner and I had as our relationship took the toll of ttc.

I guess what i am trying to get at is thank you from the bottom of my heart to the ladies (you know who you are) who were there with me on the 2ww and the ttc for 12 months threads and also to the fab ladies I have met on the may/june thread (some of you who graduated from ttc to pregnant about the same time as me!!) I am thrilled that people like Mantha and Cathy got their BFPs and I am also really pleased that people like Billy, SJ and Suemac have now got their opportunity to get a helping hand from medicine. Good luck girls. I also wanted to thank the girls who took the time to reply to my desperate panics about a possible c section on my own c section thread i started one particularly frightened day!!

I wish you heaps of babydust and hexes to the old witch - it feels like ages since i have done that and it feels good to throw out something positive! I hope those newer members who see fit to upset the apple cart take note of how it was and how it should be again. TTC is hard enough without backstabbing and bitching - thats the last place I expected to see such behaviour.

Love to all xx

Hello everyone! Remember me? I have been lurking for a few months keeping up with you all & when I checked in the other night I was extrememly sad to see what was going on.

Sue, you have made my day wording the post that I would've struggled to put into words without sounding like a berk (me, not you!)

I agree. Where has all the baby glue, baby dust & all the pma gone?

I suppose you could call me an ol-timer - I've been here for about 2.5 years & in that time I've had the most amazing support & felt so lucky to have that & lucky to share my journey with the most wonderful girlies.

My reason for not being around for the last few months.....well, not long started ttc again & it's a frightning experience as terrified of getting a BFP in case I miscarry again (if that makes sense?), but I know that if & when I do get a BFP, I know I will have the love & support from alot of people on here.

Also, I'm keeping up with the Due March/April 2008 thread as I was the one who started it & by now I would've had a beautiful 3 week old miracle, but for reasons unknown it was not meant to be at the time. Christ, starting crying again. It really is a difficult journey for us all & alot of emotions are involved.
At the end of the day, we are all here for one reason. To have friendship, support & a (virtual) shoulder to cry on.

I hope I haven't offended any of you & if I have, then I do apologise.

*waving to all the girlies Sue, Noods, Peanut, Nicki, Dats, Dippy, Cathy, Crumble, Karlyjade & anyone I've missed - you know who you are*

Love you all
K x

((((Hugs Kat))))

I'm so sorry hun that this time is so difficult for you. I often think of you and wonder how you are.

I know you'll get your bfp soon, you've done it once and will again.

Lots of love to you hun, keep us posted, and keep up the dirty e-mails!!!!!!lol

Baby dust, pma, and baby glue for next time xx

xxxx Nicki xxxx

Ah Nicki! You know everytime I get a dirty email I pass it straight to you!

awwww Kat it's lovely to know you're keeping a watchful eye over us, i only wish you were still in the same boat. sometimes life can be such a bitch.

great to know you're TTC again, when you get your BFP I WILL BE WATCHING every step of the way.

'tonnes of baby dust and PMA!' wow i've always wanted to say that!

love

karly x x

Oh my goodness I feel as though I am going to cry. As with all of you I feel completely saddened by all the nasty words and business going on here which has never happened in all the time I have been a poster (Nov 05), its just crazy. Sue I agree with everything you have said in your post and although I wish it were for happier reasons, I am so glad you have posted. You have always been a fantastic support as have all the other girls when I spent all that time on the 2ww getting nowhere month after month and feeling like time was not on my side hurtling towards 40. The comforting words you offered me were fantastic and I will never forget, and that goes for other fab women like Biddee, Everhopeful (Zoe), Faiza, Noods, Nickif, Crumble, Summer, Sparkle ...the list just goes on and on.
Zoe I just wanted to mention that I am so glad to be your due in buddy! I know I am the worlds worst poster lately but I just want to let you know that even though I might not be posting regularly on the site (bit difficult to get to the computer right now as visitors), I think of all my May buddies all the time. Thanks for your lovely words and comments. I really appreciate it

To all those TTC whether for 1 month or 5 years I am throwing over a truckload of babydust and babyglue.