Heya I'm 20, nearly 21. Got a long term partner of 3 years and we have bought our own flat. We both really would like a baby but their is something holding me back and i think its props the approval of my parents. Sounds silly but i think they would be disapointment if i had a baby so early in my life. Im not at uni, im in a steady full time job so nothing special there. I am on the pill and miss the odd 1 incase i can have a happy accident. What u think i should do? x
I would be wondering firstly what your partner thought because it would be far better to have you both in te same frame of mind with regards to becoming parents. It would be unfair to trick him into thinking you are on contraception when in reality you are missing the odd pill in hope of falling pregnant. With regards to your parents, I can see your point of view but at the end of the day its your decision and at 20, it certainly doesn't mean that you are too young to have a baby at all. My mum had me at 16 and she has been a great mum. If you are having doubts like this however, maybe the time just isn't quite right. When you and your partner are ready together and you feel you can offer a child all it needs in life, then you won't need to question because you will know thats what is right for you both.
Good luck with whatever you decide though, thinking of you
me (Sam): 41 DH: 48 5 miscarriages
Posts: 804 | Location: Australia | Registered: 28 October 2005
i have to say that i agree with mantha about discussing this with yr partner first.
saying that though, i became pregnant with my first child at 21 and i must admit even though i didn't live at home or anything i still didn't tell my mum til i was 6 months pregnant cos i was scared of what she'd say! as it turned out, she was fine about it - yr an adult now and have yr own life, flat etc so at the end of the day its yours and yr partners decision.
i think first and foremost, you need to discuss the situation with yr partner.
good luck hun xx
Posts: 537 | Location: nelson mandela house, peckham | Registered: 05 January 2008
thanks for ur comments, they make alot of sence. my bf does want a kid too as i said in my first post but he's the sort of bloke who doesnt like talking babies, weddings or n e fing like that, he makes a joke about it all which bugs me alot. hes 24 so 4 years older than me so ud think he could be mature about it. maybe we should wait a little longer and see wot happens. x
