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Hi everyone,

Im new here, so heres my problem.
Im 19,nearly 20 and i really wna to get pregnent. I have a 3 yr old sister and seeing her grow up has made me realise how much i want to be a mum. I have been with my partner a yr now, i have told him how i feel. He wants to live the dream together go on holiday the two of us and just enjoy ourselves for now. Me on the other hand want to have a baby first and then live the dream while we are still young. I keep having phantom pregnancies which is making things really hard for me. I have told the doctors and they changed my pill said it was that. The pill im on now is giving me headaches etc, so ive come off it, after reading some of theses messages im guessing theres no chance i can get pregnant straight away before i get a new pill next month.is that just wishfull thinking? Am i just thinking of myself and not seeing it from his point of view?
i dont know what to do, because i really dont want to go back on the pill but thats for the wrong reasons.

Please help me, and put some light on this. I need someone that understands me.

Thanks alot

Em

I here exactly what ur saying and im being told the same things. But i understand what ur boyfriend is trying to say as he wants to do the holiday scene and all that first so its out ur system. I feel im over that bit and want a family but i think im too young yet so will hopefully wait a couple more years(if i can!).My advice to u would be i think its a good idea u do go back on the pill till u have talked more with ur man as i dont think he really knows how much u want this.

hope everything works out
Vicky x

I can totally understand where you are coming from as that is how I am feeling. I am 28 and now want a baby more than anything, but it has taken my husband nearly 18 months to join me in this decision. He wanted to make sure that we had done everything that we wanted so that we can be the best possible parents we can.

I know how tough it is when you want some thing badly but your partner is reluctant. I found myself getting very frustrated but I also knew that for such a big decision I needed him to be with me. I wanted him to want a baby as much as I did. It has seemed like a long road but we are now in the same place decision wise and we are trying for a baby.

I think it is really important for you to respect what your partner is saying and if you can wait for him to catch up. I always felt that if I went ahead and got pregnant deliberately then my husband would end up resenting me. I think you need to remember that the decision to have a baby is a big one and some men get more scared by it than we do!!!! Give him some time and try and be patient and he will catch up with you. It will be frustrating but just think how special it will be when you make the decision together and the look on his face when you tell hm you are pregnant.

Hang in there!!!

Thank you,

That has really helped at least i know that im not the only out there.
I know im going to wait for him and will go back on the pill. I dont want to push him away, or make him decide something he doesnt want yet, He knows how i feel and how i want a baby,so i know he'll tell me when he thinks it the right time.
I'll hold on in there when we are both really and can enjoy this wonderful experience together.
THank you again for your help, i hope i can return the favour sometime.

All the best

em x