Hi everyone. Ive just done two pregnancy tests which were both positive. I just need to ask a few questions because this is my first one so sorry if i sound stupid lol.
1. I would be 4 weeks if ive worked it out right, and the two tests ive done the first one i did it was a dark line and the second one was a fainter line. is that right?
2. I keep getting quite bad period pains? is that normal or should i be worried.
This wasnt planned and im not with the father as of 3 weeks ago (it was good timing! lol). He took it better than i thought but doesnt want me to keep it. I cud never get rid of it and altho its a shock for me i am quite happy, but im really scared!
Hi Hayley - First of all congrats on your BFP. I would suggest that you make an appointment to see your GP to confirm everything. I am sorry you ex doesn't want you to keep the baby, but if you want your baby then go for it. Maybe he is in shock. Yes you do get cramps during the first few months of pregnacy, so everything sound ok to me.
congratulations! your bfp may have been lighter the second time depending on the concentration of the pregnancy hormone hcg in your wee. for example - with the 1st one you might have done it first thing in the mornin when your wee would have more hcg in it and the 2nd you may have done in the afternoon when your wee would've been more diluted.
As mummymich says, cramps are normal in early pregnancy but if you're worried go see your doctor.
sorry that your ex isn't being supportive but be strong if you really want the baby you can go it alone! i was a single mum for a long time b4 i met my husband and to be quite honest i had a lot more support and help when i was on my own. people think if you've got a partner you don't need so much help! not true.
best of luck to you hayley, if you've got any more questions just ask!
Lisajane xx
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as the others have said.. congratulations on your BFP! and i'm sorry to hear your partner hasn't taken it too well. maybe he'll come around to the idea and if not you'll manage without him don't worry.
to work out how far along you are and an approximate date as to when your baby will be due, all you need to do is put the first day of your last period (if you know it) into this website and it works it out for you.
hi, thanks for the replys they were alot of help. i did a digital one yesterday and it sed pregnant. i still cant believe it tho lol. My ex wants to meet me tomorrow to do one so he can see it! Im worried that it will come out negative! it wont i know but i cant help worrying! i also got told about chemical pregnancys so now im scared about that lol.
with the to tests that i did first where one was darker, i checked it agen and they were the same. but then some told me they were too dark for 4 weeks, but i kno thats all i am.
I probly sound silly for worrying so much but like i sed this is my first one and it hasnt quite sunk in yet.
I can and will do it without him if hes going to be like that, i cant believe he wudnt want anything to do with his own child! i am keeping it, im not going to have an abortion just because hes being like that.
please don't get yourself in a stress about this, pregnancy tests these days are very reliable, especially the digital ones. i'm sure 3 false positives is unheard of!
And don't feel silly for worrying it's completely natural, especially for someone in a position.
Have you booked an appoitment to see your doctor yet? he'll need to refer you to a midwife who will look after you and answer any questions/concerns you may have.
wishing you the best of luck for your meeting with your ex tomorrow, i hope you can sort something out.
hi. thank you, its good to be able to get all this off my chest! I think im jus getting so worried cos i really wasnt expecting it lol even when i took the test, thats why i did three lol. I am quite happy about it though, and i will love it more than enough for both of us if he dont want to be involved, i think i already do love it and thats another reason im worried.
Im making an appointment tomorow and he rekons hes going to come with me.
hey! it went ok, hes still a bit shocked i think. He goes on about not wanting it and then sed he wanted to see it. I think hell b ok once it has sunk in. Im feeling a bit more relaxed now aswell and hoping to get to 12 week scan ok. i have my 1st appointment with the midwife on the 26th feb. Ive found out that im 5 and a half weeks so i was only a week out.
Im a bit annoyed because a friend of my ex sumhow found out and has told loads of people about the baby, including his family when it shud of been us that told them!
hey i told my parents and my ex has totally come round to the idea and is as excited as i am! which makes me feel better.
i hav to go to the docs today cos iv got a bit of bleeding. its only a little bit, like hardly there an a bit of light period pain, but people hav told me that it can happen and not to worry too much, but its really hard not to! Im goin to the docs just to make sure.
i've been reading your posts and just want to say that i'm so glad your parents and the babys dad have taken the news so well. I bet it really was a weight off your mind telling your folks.
Good luck at the doctors today. spotting in pregnancy can be quite common, sometimes you get it around the time that you would've had your period so don't worry too much about it.
Hope all goes well for you.
Lisajane xxx
Posts: 537 | Location: nelson mandela house, peckham | Registered: 05 January 2008
iv got to have a scan 2moro cos the bleeding has become like a usual period. with period pain. i was at the hospital all day yesterday - by myself bcos my ex went to the pub with the new girl hes seeing - but they cudnt scan me. im really scared now!
i'm really keeping my fingers crossed for you. Your ex needs a kick up the butt, can't he support you in this? perhaps your parents could go with you? i think you need someone with you for moral support.
good luck Lisajane xxx
Posts: 537 | Location: nelson mandela house, peckham | Registered: 05 January 2008
