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Hi Everyone...

Unfortunately in Feb i suffered a miscarriage.. id started bleeding during the 6th 7th week and by the 9th week i had gone for a scan and told that i had miscarried and the sac was empty.
I have had 2 periods during this time which have been a week overdue, and 3 normal periods (which is 4 weeks apart exactly for me).. i am currently over 1 week late for my period but am too scared to test to see if i am pregnant. Im trying not to get too happy to avoid dissapointment.. I am also really scared tht if i am pregnant that i start bleeding again and history repeats itself.. and would just become a nervous wreck until id gone past that point or even up to 12 weeks!!!
Has anyone been in a similar situation ever.. ?? Any advice??

Hi SSSB, if I were you I would do a test just to put your mind at rest if you are pregnant it should show up...I know how scary it is as I had an almost identical situation happen to me in December last year where I started bleeding at 7 weeks and when I had scan at 8 weeks there was only an empty sac...I was heartbroken as it took us nearly a year to conceive that first little one and I thought my whole world had fallen apart...

I am pleased to say that I am now 13 weeks pregnant although it has been a hard 12 weeks and I still find myself worrying...You just have to hold onto the fact that every pregnancy is different and that just because you miscarried the first time does not mean that you will this time...

I wish you all the best and I hope that you are pregnant and go on to have a happy and healthy pregnancy....

Lisa xoxo

First of all Congratulations Lily Sue.. im really happy for you that you are pregnant... gives me some hope as well..

Thanks alot for your reply.. i am thinking about getting some pregnancy tests this afternoon after work and just going for it.. i need to put that part of my mind at rest as i may be just troubling myself for no reason.. ie if im not pregnant!

It was really hard for me too when i went through the miscarriage.. my first pregnancy.. my sis gave birth a month later.. and my best friend is expecting the day i would have been due as well!! been really hard!

Thanks for the kind thoughts lily sue.. wish you all the best too!!

So happy you have decided to do the test...Please let us know how you get on....Will be so happy if it all works out for you...

All the best

Lisa xoxo

SSSB- TTC after a miscarriage is a very intense time being pregnant even more so.
I had a miscarriage before i got pregnant with my son.
It took about 5 cycles to get there and was what you could call and emotional rollercoaster.
I desperately wanted to be pregnant again but was terrified that i would miscarry.
I tested only when i was a few day late and as soon as i saw the positive test sign i was over the moon but very wary.
I think that is very normal after going through the loss of a baby.
I did have a short lived excitement though as i started to bleed only a week later and up until i was about 16 weeks on and off.
But as you can see my little man was not going to let that stop him from coming!
If i would have known now that it would all turn out with me having the beautiful little boy that i have i would have not worried half as much as i did.
All people kept telling me was that this was a completely different pregnancy and they were right.
Every pregnancy is different just because one wasn't meant to be doesn't mean this one will be the same.
Do your test, you have to find out at some point but just remember to make this a fresh start and put the other miscarriage in the past.
It is a horrible thing for any woman to go through but if it has tought me anything it is to appreciate how worth while all of it is in the end.
Good luck with your testing let us know the result!
Love Amy.xxxx

Hey jst read post and wanted to wish you all the best... I am not sure if this helps any but when i first fell pregnant i worried right up untill i got to 24 weeks, i didnt tell people i was pregnant untill i was 16weeks on. From what i know a lot of people can have unsuccesful first pregnancy and then go on to have normal pregnancies afterwards. I am sorry to hear that you miscarried and wish you all the best for the future.

hi there

it is totally normal for you to feel this way,
I had a missed miscarriage in july 06 and in may07.
my little boy is now 5months old and i am expecting another little bundle which i wouldnt have any other way!
with my son and this time around my gp has refered me to the early pregnancy clinic where i have had regular scans and so on just for some peace of mind and so on.
i wish you lots and lots of luck with your test!
think positive hun, i know its hard but i truly believe it happens when you are at peace and relaxed

love liz xx

Hey,
thanks so much to everyone for your replies... i really appreciate your kind thoughts and advice.
Unfortunately i havent been able to test yet.. had family over last night and couldnt get out... I am definately getting one today and have provisionally booked a doctors appointment as well. If, (god willing) i am pregnant.. i am going to try and get an early scan... I just feel i cant get excited or get too happy.. and i know no 2 pregnancies are normally the same.. but i cant help but worry. I havent told anyone yet.. only hubby knows that im late with my period.. I desperately want to have a baby now i know that i am late.. and perhaps just to avoid dissapointment i havent tested... but i have decided now i am definately testing tonight.. wish me luck!

By the way.. Im Shaz,im 27 years old and live in Wales, my husband is also 27 years old and we have been married a year. Had a miscarriage in Feb this year.. have no other children... nice to meet you all!

Shaz xx

hey shaz,
i think it might be worth mentioning after my miscarriages the midwives at the early pregnancy clinic advised me to use asprin as they said i could just have problems with implantation.
it mught be worth mentioning it to the gp as since i have taken it i have been sucsessfull carrying.


good luck hun!! loads of baby dust!!

liz x

I know exactly how you feel. I also miscarried at around the 8 week mark of my second pregnancy. I was completly devastated. 3 months later I found out I was pregnant again and at 8 weeks woke up again with spotting...I was terrified so I called my GP and insisted that he go ahead and do an ultrasound so I would know what was going on. Everything was fine- still don't know what the bleeding was, but I was a nervous wreck pretty much the entire pregnancy. However it all went fine and now I have 2 precious little girls. Now just hoping baby #3 will come quickly.....Hang in there! Definitely test to see if you are preggers or not- it will relieve some of the stress.