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i need to talk to somebody!
i was raped by my ex boyfriend and now i think im pregnant, im scard to do anything i really need help i dont know what to do!

Oh Hun....don't know what to say.

Are you going to go to the Police?

Do you know how far gone you are?

Aside from the awful thing that's happened to you are you in a position to have a baby? Do you want to keep it or are you just totally confused and upset to make any decisons?

Sorry not being much help.

Hugs hun.....thinking of you
xxxxxxxxxx

gosh thats so scary....are u ok??

u must try to talk to someone. if u r too scared to go to the police right now why not try ringing those special hotlines for people in ur position.

i wud help u find them but am just on my way out...

im so so so sorry for u hun. i really hope that u r ok. have u done a pregnancy test to confirm u r pregnant.

regarldess of whether u r or u r not...ur ex-boyfriend shud be prosecuted for his disgusting and vile attack on u. xxxxx

i dont know what to do, i dont want to tell my friends as im scared of what they will think of me, im not gonna go to the police as i know he'll deny it all and i just dont want to go through all of that.
i think im about 8 weeks gone, im only 18 and im confused about everything, dont know what to do about it all.

thanks for your help xxxxxxx

this is gonna sound weird..but have u got ur clothes or his..or ur sheets etc. or anything with any evidence on it???

and dont worry about him denying it...im sure lots of victims dont speak out straight away...and the police arent going to dismiss ur case just because he denied it.

u shudnt have to suffer in silence..especially as u r just 18years old.

try searching for rape victims support lines .. they will advice u the best route to go.

and i know this is going to sound really insensitive and strange...but dont feel obliged to keep the baby if u dont want to. u were raped..and its very difficult to continue a pregnancy wen u r raped.. thats not to say i say u MUST abort... but dont feel pressurised into any decisions hun.

definitley talk to someone. xxx

thank you for your comments.
im gonna have to think about it, im too scared to go at the moment.
i think im gonna talk to my teacher at college who i know i can trust, she is very supportive.
i dont know whether i want to keep it, if i dont i can always put it up for adoption.

oh emma

im so sorry for what you have been through.

please, please get help for this, you must speak to someone, this is the last thing you need on your mind, the worst thing you can do it keep it bottled up inside.

i hope you do speak to your teacher, im sure she will be able to advise you in the right thing to do.

please keep us informed, we will all be 100% behind you in whatever your decision will be.

take care & remember that the police will have dealt with this before & will be willing to help you.

lots of love to you

claire xx

Oh Emma, what a terrible time for you

Please seek help, those people are professionals and are trained to know exactly how to help you, they wont judge you or you situation, and some of them have actually been through the same thing. You can ask to speak to a lady if it helps. They will have lots of information that we aren't aware of which will help you, and they will be there to support you.

Big hugs xxx

You poor thing, how terrible, that bloke should be strung up for raping you. I am online a lot so if you need to talk I am here for you. I can understand how you feel totally confused about things but you don't need to be alone. Do you have a true friend you can tell? You really should do a test and confirm that you are actually pregnant it might be that due to the stress you just did not have your period. Have you spoken to your doctor I think this would be a positive step and they can help you from there.

Don't bottle it all up, you need help and we can help here but you should see someone medical aswell hun.

Love Lorraine, xx

i told my teacher, she was very supportive and told me to go and see a doctor to double check and make sure. Turns out im 3 months gone which was a shock! Now i have to pluck up the courage and tell my parents, might tell my best mate, i can tell her anything plus she can be there when i tell them.

Thank you again for all your comments, they have been a lot of help

Well done for speaking to someone, that is the first hard hurdle. You should try and get some councelling though whatever you decide to do... also you need your family and friends around you at this difficult time.
Please look at this website if you haven't already
http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/
The have links to crisis centres all over the country to get support and councelling, most centres have a confidential phoneline as well.
A lot of the councellors have suffered an attack themselves and will understand what you are going through.
Take care
Shona xxx

Hi Emma

Great move talking to your teacher - you need people you can trust around you at a time like this. A question which I am sure you have already considered (and sorry if this sounds insensitive) - if you are further gone than you thought, are you pregnant from the rape or from another time? It might alter the way you feel about the baby? Either way I really do think you should seek out some non-directive counselling - the doctor can usually point you in the right direction.

I feel for you and hope that you work this out for the best. There are lots of people on here who will give you support.

JO x

thank you JO, i know its nobody else's as i was a virgin before it happend.

im gonna start going to counselling to help me through this, its gonna be hard.

hello emma...so glad u got such a nice teacher and ur freind sounds like she'll be loadsa support.

wata terrible thing to happen especially as u wer a virgin..glad ull get coucelling for dealing with the rape and ull probably have to work on sex as an issue as well. really feel for u.

i hope ur pregnancy goes well if u decide to keep it. are u ever in contact with that ex of urs... does he realise wat hes done to u...aside from his horrific attack on u.

Hi Emma

So sorry I really hope that didn't come across as being insensitive. I hope you find some help and support. The guy sounds like a creep.

jo x