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Slept better last night but have worried all day. I bought my friend a card, not sure what I should write in it, so not sent yet. I have tried to keep myself busy today to try to stop thinking about it all, but sadly its not helped much. I feel so numb. Everyone is very supportive though and I have found I have spoken to so many people about it as I just am so shocked by it all. I have been stroppy today no doubt stress related, and bad backache and heartburn are not bloody helping either. I might go to see the midwife or doctor before the week is though as I am so down and they are trying to stop me getting PND again so already under care for that.

Hope you are all ok.
Love Lorraine. x

Today must be her D day and the dead baby is probably being born as we speak. I am beside myself, have been so stressed, shouting at the kids and angry at whats happened. Have posted the card today, but know it can't help her at this time.

Just come over from 2WW thread as it's really quiet on there today - sorry to but in.

Lorraine hun, It's awful whats happened to your friend and no sorrys in the world will make her feel better at this dreadful time.

But hun, I know your hurting what seems as much as your friend but you really need to put you and your little bubba first, you're getting really stressed and I canm fully understand that, but you don't want your health and your bubbas to suffer from it. I got really stressed in my first pg at 29 weeks and ended up in hospital with Pre-ecamplamsia and luckily enough they controlled my blood pressure but I was not allowed out until they induced me at 36 weeks, I wouldn't wish that experience on anyone.

Sounds like you are a absolute gem of a friend, you've sent her a card, she will know you are there for her when she is ready, it's gonna take a lot of time to get over what she has gone through. You know you'll be there when she needs you.

But please just look after you and your little growing bubba, all the best and I truly hope you feel better very soon.

luv & Hugs

Maybe
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I will try to distance myself a bit, but its so hard, I feel a mix of emotions from guilt and anger to upset and fear. Its horrible.

Lorraine - Hun things will settle down eventually, I promise.

I'm sure she won't take it out on you in the future babe.

My thoughts are with you.

I am here if you need to chat like you were for me.

Love Jen x [:X]

Thanks Jen. x

Still numb by all this, but trying to get my head round it. I have done all I can do to try to help them at this sad time.

Its pouring with rain here and so cold and windy I feel like going back to bed!! I do hate feeling so down, I should be so happy at this time. I am 24 weeks pregnant tomorrow.

Hows the rest of you doing?

Love Lorraine. x

lorraine-keep that sweet chin up and celebrate your pregnancy...by the sound of it your friend will know how much you hurt for her by the caring way you act..you are so sweet do don't get down on yourself and internalize everything, just be there for her when she is ready and it will be ok...have you heard any more news?
[]noodle

Thanks for that. No more news, I know she won't want to be in touch with me now.

Still no news, I knew by my gut reaction she would hate me. I just can't stop thinking about it all.

heya hun..give her time..i guess she needs to come to terms with her loss herslef ..and some ppl jus like to do that first before they talk to evn their freinds and families...dont feel rejected straight away...if its really playing on ur mind..u could email later, her asking her how she is doing...if u still dont hear from her then i guess u should be happy in the knowledge u did the best u could and u were a good friend. x

Lorraine,

I am a newbie on here and hope you don't mind me replying.

Firstly, just want to send you massive hugs....and to let you know that I think you are a wonderful person for wanting to help her and all of your other friends...

BUT....you and your bubba must come first, please try not to get too stressed....

Love and hugs to you

Babypie

Thanks for that. I feel a bit better about things today. I worry alot I think that does not really help, but sadly is in my nature. I worry about all things even before they happen or when they do. I get bad panic attacks when I worry that something might happen, and if it does I cope badly. What a nightmare. Sometimes I wish I was not so sensitive about everything.

(((musswells))) aww....bless ya..u sound like a top gal and a great friend....the world is a tough place sometimes hey!!

She is in touch with me. We are talking now on messenger and I am supporting her the best I can. I have even seen a piccie of the baby. I will type more later, x