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Hello all,
I have greatly enjoyed getting to meet and talk with many people while I was ttc and while I was pregnant- however after having a miscarriage on 10/10/08 with baby #3 at 7 weeks, it is hard for me to continue reading pregnancy posts at the current moment.

Just wondering if there are any others out there who have also had miscarriages who would like to join in? I think it is hard to go through when you feel like no one else understands what you are feeling.

So maybe we can all get through this together?!?!? I would love to hear from others.

Hi Wanting#3,

Thanks for starting this thread... I am so so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It is very difficult emotionally and physically to deal with this. I am also in the same boat as you, and surprisingly my miscarriage was also on the 10/10 at 6 weeks. I was absolutely devastated when it happened as I had all the pregnancy symptoms etc and all of a sudden I could feel a decrease in the symptoms - particularly my breasts. This was mostly noticeable on Thursday, then on Friday I just started bleeding heavily and knew that I had miscarried. To be honest I just felt as if I was in a dream, one minute I had been pregnant next minute it had all gone.

I then researched a lot of websites and realised that a number of women who had Mirena as their bc have been miscarrying between 5 and eight weeks. Apparently this could be due to a range of factors, mostly hormonal imbalance or the uterus lining which gets really thinned out by the coil. Some women have been told by their doctors to refrain from ttc until 6 months to give the uterine lining time to thicken enough to hold the baby.

I am on the road to recovery now but I was really really down over the weekend and the sight of the blood just made me feel like a failure, like my body cant hold a baby. I am going to stop ttc now as I wouldnt be able to handle another msc.

I wish you all the best in recovering and remember not to blame yourself, it could be anything that caused it to happen.

Best wishes

muchazo,
thanks for posting...our situations were very similar. I also noticed a significant change in my pregnancy symptoms and then started bleeding Friday morning very heavily and haven't stopped yet.

My dr had told me to wait 2 months before ttc, but after reading lots of posts on here where people had been trying for over a year since the removal it scared me and so we started trying right away. Guess I should have listened.

Do you have any other children? This is my 2nd msc. I have 2 daughters and I had a msc in-between them. My husband and I haven't decided yet whether or not we will ttc again, but we are definitely not going to try any time soon. I am going to spend the next several months trying to get my body healthy and free from any outside hormones/bc/etc. We will try other methods of bc rather than pills or coils.

If this was your first pregnancy, don't give up on ttc- just give yourself time to heal. I got pregnant 3 months after my last msc with my daughter and had a wonderful pregnancy.

I know what you're going through and I appreciate you posting.

Best wishes and keep in touch!

hi all,
can i just say that this is a great thread to start!
i can understand how you all must be feeling i had two m/c in the first trimester one d&c,

after the first i concieved twelve months after m/c and then m/c at 5-6 weeks,
i then went onto concieve ds the cycle after, we werent ttc as we thought it would take time again.

i think if i had known about placews like this where you can chat about your experiences it would help you to deal with it so well done for setting up the tread,

best wishes to you both x

Hi Liz and welcome,

Going through a miscarriage is an awful experience. Wanting - we are similar, I read a lot of posts about women finding it hard to conceive post Mirena and my husband and decided to try straight away thinking it would also take us long. My bleeding was very heavy on Friday and Saturday but by Sunday it was phasing out. I have completely stopped bleeding now and am just going to wait until my body is better. Who would ever think that the coil with such glowing recommendations from doctors would cause such problems. It makes me really angry actually that they are just allowing this Mirena to be used without full investigations as to the impact of it. I am not going to take any bc now, I was tempted to try the pill but feel that I should give my body a rest. Wanting, I have two other children and this is my first mc. So sorry to hear that you have had to go through this awful experience again. My boys are 10 and 3yrs 8months. Luckily I hadnt told a lot of people which is so unlike me......I guess deep down I thought something would go wrong. Normally once I find out that I am pregnant I tell the whole world.

Liz, going through two mc is awful, no-one really understands what you are going through and the devastation it causes. For example my hubby is very supportive but I think that since he believes the baby was still really small that it shouldnt really have that much of an effect of me, but the opposite is true. Liz, is this your second you are expecting. Good luck, that is a nice gap you have there, they can grow up together

Waiting a while is a very good idea. Stay strong and look after yourselves

xxx

aww sweetie it can have such a huge impact on some people and i was the same,i went through so many emotions within myself it was horribe, i really feel for anyone going through this.
my husband although there for me, wasnt in a way as they dont really undersand sometimes.
dont feel that you cant feel like this because it was early, both mine were and i was wrecked, you need to go through it step by step to move along. you top grieve if thats how you feel,

yes this is my second, there is a little stigma to having babies so close like wen i turn up to anti natal with a six month old but i wouldnt have it any other way, i didnt plan this one but found it hard to use contraception after harvey as i looked into how the coil work mini pill etc worked too closely, and couldnt bare using it.
as i say to people "iv lost two, they are just like buses two have come along at the same time lol bring on these babies i say they are all welcome!!"

im sure that in time you will understansd me hun. il speak to you soon chin up liz x

Its so good to hear others who are going (or have gone) through the same things. My dh and I had not told anyone that we were expecting this time- I wanted to wait just in case something happened as I didn't know how to explain a m/c to my 4 year old. Glad I waited.

However because of that I feel like I am going through this alone because dh does not truly understand what I am going through. "It was only 7 weeks" but to me from the minute you get those lines on the pt, you immediately fall in love and start bonding with the child growing inside you. Since no one knew I was expecting, its kind of hard to say "by the way, I just had a m/c."

I haven't even been to the dr yet for a follow up. My dr has been out of town and I refused to go the ER just for confirmation- like i said, this wasn't my first time and this was EXACTLY like the previous time so I didn't need to spend my last day at the beach sitting in an ER for 5 hours. I am hoping that after seeing my dr tomorrow (10/16) I will start feeling better and not feel so alone about it. To be honest, I think I just need to talk about it. I think that will be what helps me heal the most. That's why I started this thread.

hi ther wanting,
i had told people with the first, it was a missed miscarriage and i only found out at the 12 week scan, coulnt imagine having nobody to talk to about it, especially with already having a child it must feel worse because as soon as you find out then you imagine what it is but come and talk to us hun!

i hope you find a friend or relative that you could speak to soon, im sure that DH doesnt mean to be insensitive they are sometimes just like that

soeak soon liz x

Hi Liz and Wanting,

So good to hear from you and thanks for all the support. Liz, my sister had her two kids close together and at first I thought she had lost her mind due to the sheer hardwork it is, but it seems she got it right. They have a 9month gap but get along really well and they have also bonded quite well. I can imagine the looks on people's faces though as you have said....

Wanting, sorry to hear that you are feeling so alone in this. You have echoed what I have been experiencing, I didnt go to the doctor either as I already knew and could not face waiting in ER either only to be told what I already knew. I didnt take any time off so you can imagine how I felt at work, utterly miserable but couldnt exactly say I've just miscarried as no-one knew. I was really tearful however and my poor students bore the brunt of it....I felt that if I had stayed at home I would have actually gone into a depression because of thinking too much.

My DH doesnt even mention it anymore so to him it seems like its gone with the wind. Men can be insensitive, I guess it is their way of caring, they dont bond with the pregnancy test like we do.... I had told my 10year old but then later on I just told him that the test I had used had given me a wrong result. Wanting are there any registered charities in US that you can ring to talk about this, they are normally very useful and staffed by volunteers who have been through the same.

Good luck ladies, take care of yourselves

xxx

Hello girls. I went to see my gp today so wanted to give an update. He definitely thinks I m/c because I got pregnant so quickly after having my mirena coil removed. So to anyone who reads this who is ttc after mirena, please follow your doc's orders and wait at least 2 cycles before ttc.

I had my coil removed 8/21/08 and af came on 8/22 just as scheduled. I got a bfp on 9/18 and m/c on 10/10 at 7 weeks.

I feel much better after talking to my gp today. He has promised that if I choose to get pregnant again in the future that he will have me come in for checks as soon as I get the bfp rather than waiting until the 8-10 week mark since this is my 2nd m/c.

hi hun, im glad you feel a little better after speaking to your gp.
i dont really know much about this mirena coil thing other than it doesnt sound too good! and to think i was thinking of using it this time around!
im glad you got some reassurance from your gp for next time! i was told to take asprin after my second m/c as the docs thought iu may have a problem with implantation and it seemed to work for me i take a 75mg tablet a day till 36 weeks, it may be worth mentioning if this is your second m/c.

hope your all looking after yourselves liz x

Hello all,
I am doing pretty good. I just wanted to throw this question out there for anyone who may have some answers. How long does it usually take for the HCG levels to get to 0 after a m/c?

My first m/c lasted only 4 days from the time I started spotting until the time my numbers were 0. It has been well over a week since I started bleeding and passed the sac and my numbers are still in the 300s.

Has anyone had this happen and how long should I expect it to take to get to 0? I go back for more bloodwork this Thursday.

Hi wanting

I am very sorry to hear of your miscariage, They are so devastating whatever the stage. I have had 5, both early and late ones in the 1st trimester. I never stopped believing though that we would have another baby, I think its so easy to give up and totally understandable as the pain is intense and people don't understand if they have never had a miscarriage. I know it can be isolating and leave you feeling like a complete failure. With all of mine the HCG came down within a couple of weeks or so, earlier with the early losses. I would notice my symptoms reducing quite quickly. I had 2 D and C\s and with this procedure, the HCG reduces even faster.

Take care and best of luck for a sticky pregnancy next time X

hi wanting, im not too sure, i only had bloods for the second one where i bled, they took one lot the day i started bleeding and another lot a few days later and saw the levels were reducing, they never did follow up bloods with my d&c,
speak soon liz x