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Hi Girls,
I am after some advice. My husband and I have been trying for a baby since January. Not making too much of an effort really, just seeing how it goes, until this month. I really want to have a baby, but I am scared about the whole process. I have so many questions but no-one I can really talk to about it. None of my close friends have children and if I say anything to anyone at work it will be round so fast and everyone will know. I don't want to speak to my mum as she doesn't know we are trying and is desperate for grandchildren and I don't want her to get her hopes up.

I was wondering if those of you out there with babies would mind answering a few of my questions.

What is it like being pregnant?
How do you cope with morning sickness and working?
How do you manage to hide it until you want people to know?
How do you manage to combine work and motherhood?
What is it like giving birth?

I know these are a bit broad but they kind of sum up what I want to know ie everything. I want to know the bad stuff as well as the good stuff so don't hold back.

Thanks

Wendy

hello

well as for working during pregnancy i cant answer that one cos i didnt work either time when i was pg.

as for being pregnant you just learn to hide the fact that you are pregnant although what you really want to do is shout it out on the roof top!!! sickness i supose you could just put down to a bug or something.

as for working after pregnancy a lot of people manage so i dont see why you should be any different!

hope this helps
email me at vickyhowells@fsmail.net if you want to ask any more questions.

vicky + bump 26weeks

Hi Wendy

Im Jane, I have two boys Sam 6 and Jack 3 and am 27 weeks pregnant with my third. About trying for a baby, the best advice i had was to enjoy making your baby, dont let it rule your life. Hope i can help with your questions though. Being pregnant probably brings out different feelings in people, i have enjoyed it. The one thing that is truly wonderful is when your little baby kicks for the first time.

With regard to morning sickness, i had very little so cant help but there are many non-drug products you can take to help. As for hiding it, you and your partner just have to be good at keeping secrets!.

As for giving birth, well sweetie it isnt easy. It will hurt but there are so many ways of delivering now and so much pain relief that it does make things easier. The baby's head is the worst part but after that when your little bundle is placed on your belly, it will all seem worthwhile.

Hope i have helped a little sweetie. If you want to talk more you can email on janegreenwood337@hotmail.com. Love to hear from you and good luck with making baby.

Lots of Love
Jane xx

Hi Wendy,

Well I am sorry but I can't answer any of your questions but I wanted to say that I am in the same situation as you. We have only been trying since March and so it is early days yet, but I know what you mean about so many questions. I want a baby so much but you can't help wondering about all the things you mention. I think the key to it is not to panic about anything and take each stage as it comes.

I agree with Vicky I know lots of people who have children and work (my mum included!!) and I think it is something that you have to find your own way with dealing with.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone with all your quearions and I think that having a baby is a huge step and it is only natural that we should be anxious about the unknown. I keep thinking about the moment when I finally hol my own child in my arms and that dispells all my anxieties.

I check the website daily so I look if you want a chat then just post a message and I will reply. God luck trying!!!!

Wendy

I was the same as you very curoious about being pregnant etc, I'm now nearly 29 weeks and I have to be truthful and say at first I didn't like it at all, but once I got over the sicky feeling it's truly amazing, like hearing the heartbeat each time, feeling her kicking, getting notions for different foods, it has it ups and downs like everything else. As for sickness and work, it's probably easier if your working it takes your mind off how you feeling, but not everyone gets morning sickness, I knew a girl who didn't have any at all, and there are ways to get over it, some work some don't.

Although I told everyone soon, it wasn't really noticeable until I was about 22 weeks, it depends on the clothes you wear!!!!!

As for the last 2 can't aswer them just yet but I will be going back to work at some point after the baby is born and I've been told that the birth will probably hurt but all that goes away when you hold your baby in your arms.

I really do hope my words help and don't scare you off, I believe in telling it like it is!!!!!!

Let me know how you get on!!!!!

Lisa

Thanks guys for all your experiences and advice. I am still scared stiff about the whole thing but the want for a baby overrides that feeling by a long way. The main thing I am worried about is the sickness. I don't do being ill very well and I know my mum had it so the liklihood of me getting it is quite high.
I know I am being a bit pathetic about it all and probably worrying about nothing, but that's just me.
It is great to have this website to talk to like minded people. Only my sister and a close friend at work know we are trying for a baby. It is so difficult to know this huge secret and not say anything. I also feel like everyone knows. Like I look different or something. I must be bonkers!!! :-)
Good luck to those expecting and to Lizzy with the trying. If you want to e-mail me my address is wendyhine@yahoo.co.uk

Thanks again
Wendy