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zara

I have had a really down day today, I have had back ache and cramps and I cannot stop worrying about miscarrying, I am 23 and have never been pregnant before. Word has got out that I am expecting, my mum slipped up and told my aunt who proceeded to tell the whole world!!

I cant stop worrying. Last night i had a tiny bit of very light brown discharge and i rang the midwife who said if it becomes red then call back. its gone now but i cant shake this feeling of worry.

Sorry to sound so blue

x

Oh hun, I know exactly how you feel. I'm 24 and it's my 1st too.

I don't think you can help not worrying during the 1st trimester as it's the 'crucial' stage. It doesn't help when you think about it a lot either. I used to worry about every niggle and tingle and would google them, but I learned that there was no point worrying coz it'll just make you feel worse.

So instead I started reading and understanding about miscarriage - why it happens. I know it might sound disturbing but it opened my eyes, and I started to feel better although still hoping and praying it would never happen. Miscarriage is nature's way of stopping 'defective' babies from growing. Some might find me or what I'm saying here a bit harsh and insensitive but it's the fact. I came to accept the fact that there's nothing we can do. And my doc also said that to me. We cannot do anything to stop it from happening.

What I'm trying to say is, try not to think about it (easier said than done, I know), think positive, just enjoy every bit of the pregnancy.

Bleeding in pregnancy doesn't necessarily mean something bad. 25% of women bleed in their pregnancy went on having healthy babies at the end. Some women even still have their monthly period during pregnancy.

I know right now it seems like a long way till you reach 12 weeks but you'll get there soon. Keep yourself busy, find baby names and look at baby and maternity catalogues to keep your mind off the worries. At least that's what I did to help me pass the days.

I worry every now and then still, I guess it's just natural. First we worry if we can get pregnant, then when we are we worry about things going wrong, then when the baby's born we worry if they're okay, etc... The worrying is just endless!

Think positive! Deep down if you know that everything's going to be okay, then it will. Stress is not good for the baby. And remember, the baby also feels what you're feeling. So take a deep breath and chin up!

Hi Zara, I dont think you sounded harsh at all, it is something that new mums to be are scared s***less about, you just want to be able to create the best environment, and if things go wrong you blame yourself, but you are right, and it is best to be as positive as you can be about these things, try not to worry, try and have as much joy as you can from your pregnancy, keep smiling []

I am wishing everyone a non worrying day, everyone take care of yourselves and your little beans

Love

Jox

Thanks everyone

But you all think im a right sopp! I worry about everythin. Well from now on im gonne take a deep breath and just go with the flow. My sister in Law says the cramps are just my uterus adjusting to pregnancy. the discharge hasn't returned (fingers crossed). so i am now almost five weeks three more weeks and I will feel more at ease. I know everyone goes through this painfull worying but I suppose its just the beginning of motherhood.

Well hope every one has a nice day, and thanks zara I was really on one last night!

Take care

xxnicxx

Hi Zara hun, thanks for the congrats. DH and I are thrilled, but trying to stay calm until after my scan on 27th May, next Friday, week today!! I called the Early pregnancy Unit yesterday and they seem to think that this time around I will be ok, but they would like to scan me at 6 weeks just to make sure. I am 4 weeks something at the moment, so not long now!

I too have very odd twinges and pains, and nausea, but not actually been sick yet, just feeling sick. Also have chronic heartburn, and backache and I cannot get over how exhausted I am. i want to sleep by 1pm every day!! It is a nightmare (but a nice nightmare!!).

I have had the occassional tinge of pink/brown in my cm too, and was worried, but only once when I wiped, and then nothing for a day or two, then maybe some more. I presume that the uterus is getting used to the invasion and a little tinge here and there is natural. I will keep an eye on it, just in case.

Well, fingers crossed for my scan next week, and love and best wishes to all!

xx Chinup xx

well it looks like I am due end of january next year.

got my BFP today albeit a very faint line on an acon ultra so I am being very cautious as I am only 11DPO.

Ems, just wanted to say congrats again. You really really deserve it. I am chuffed to bits for you.

Lots of love, Lauren x

Wow, Emmaleigh and Chinup, congratulations to you both. That's great news, hope you have a healthy and happy pregnancy both of you.

Sue x

ooooo congrats to emmaleigh and chinup and everyone else who's had BFPs that I haven't mentioned - so excited for you!!!!
Love Loocy xx[]

Thanks you lovely lot for your kinds words - after a year of trying and PCOS and tablets etc i cannot quite believe it - in so much shock!

Oh Ems!!!!! What great news!!!

Big congratulations to you and DP!!!


xZ

Hi Emmaleigh and chinup

A big congratulations to you and your bfp's. Now we can all post on here with our symptoms and good times. I have had a few worries but after wize words from zara i am going to chill from now on. i am driving DF mad with my hormones.

Do you feel better this time chin up? I hope so. I have had a tinge of brown/pink discharge aswell but its gone now.

Well done girls

Luv Nic xxxx

To Emmaleigh a big fat CONGRATULATIONS[][][8D] what a lovely start to the weekend!!! You take care, and I definately think this is the start of BFP's........


M x

Hi Joeyjo and everyone...

Yes I am soooo excited - this is cos we had been trying for a baby for nearly 2 years and we were waiting for our appointment letter from the hospital...when I found out I was pregnant -we had just about given up and decided we'd have never be able to conceive naturally.

Hows everyone feeling at the end of this week? I still have tender breasts and the veins in them are really noticeable! Also starting to feel really tired and not at all with it - People at work today were beginning to wonder why I saying really dumb things - it was really embarrassing!!! Not sure how long before they'll all figure it out!

Please let me know if anyone else is feeling zapped of energy or brain dead...

Speak soon

Wend xxx

HI Nichola,

Yes I do feel better with this one, but I never knew I was pg with the last one, until 4 days before going into hospital, so this time I am able to feel my symptoms and get used to them. Just hoping that everything is ok - I am a natural worrier!

Just wanted to say congrats to ems again!! I know I already have, but you know I love you!!! lol

Hope everyone and thier beans are ok.

love
Chinup
x