Discovery Home & Health

hiya no this was just a random midwife from the hospital in the womens centre bit,but i'm wanting to move hospitals and have told the consultant this,he said get to 34 weeks first so maybe i will wait till then but if i do i run the risk of bumping into the same midwife.
yeah people always ask u having anymore like 5 seconds after you've given birth and ur thinking shut up and go away do i look like i want anymore lol.

still having pelvic pain get it worst during the night and when i wake up,not sleeping well at all though.i dunno maybe when i'm older i might want another you know when my biological clock starts ticking away

caitlins crying her goldfish is dying so better go catch up with u soon

lisa

HI lisa i hope you dont mind me asking but im really wondering how old you are?You sound like a young mum you'll proberly be surprised when i tell you im only 23 on july 20th.I had Dylan at 19 and Tyler at 21 so i'll be 23 with 3 children.I get so many comments on my age from older mums (not all of them are nasty)but i have had to put up with dirty looks from people who think im too young to be a mum.I dont know why we are married and theres huge benefits to having children while your young.My mum was 20 when she had me and now shes a nan at 43 no one believes her my younger sister is now 16 so my mum and dad can go off and do what they like.Im glad i have had children young especially as its 3 boys i'll need the energy!!!The down side is not being able to go out EVER.I cant remember the last time we had the whole night to ourselves and got to clubbing i think about 2 yrs ago.The last time we went out was to the cinema was to see shaun of the dead proberly about 5 mths ago.

hi jayne i don't mind you asking at all i was a mum to 3 at 21 so i know what you mean i'm now 25 had tyler at 18 kieran at 20 and caitlin when i was 21,people look at you as if ur scum sometimes and you just wanna rip their faces off cos they are so insulting but you don't you bite your lip and go on like it hasn't bothered you i suppose you have to because if you didn't we would end up crazy or in jail lol

i know what you mean bout going out or lack of it last time i went out with my fella was when i was 6 weeks pregnant and i didn't enjoy it at all,i'm trying to arrange to go for a meal with my partner before the baby comes but i dunno if we'll get to with all the other expenses plus he has to fit it in between work as he works shifts so i'm on my own during these 6 weeks holidays lol arghhhhhhh

lisa

HI lisa im glad you awnswered back on a friday night just incase im the only sad person with nothing to do.Mark my hubby is working and theres sod all on tv.Are you working or anything?Im not i think thats why the boys annoy me so much coz i dont get a break from them.Im glad your a young mum aswell so you know what i mean about the stares and comments.What are your childrens friends parents like at school?Are they all older parents.Well we live in cambridge and most parents here are in there forties and have just had there first or second child.Dylan starts nursery in september and we were invited to a parents meeting evening.It was boring as hell when we arrived we had to watch a video about children playing,and listen to teachers with voices like mice talk about the things they do and then we had to walk around the school and chat to other parents.I swear we the youngest there and all the mums seemed to know each other from toddler groups and things no one spoke to us and we walked out the door and went home and no one ever noticed we had gone.I did go to baby groups and things but i just didnt fit in.To be honest i hated them having to sit in a circle and sing oh mcdonald had a farm.Other mums seem to love it but i dont know perhaps its just me?I had dinner at 7 pizza chips and bread with it and i am now starving i just cant seem to ever stop eating i am such a pig for chocolate and as im so hot all the time have a freezer full of icepols.What about you?

hi jayne

your not sad my fella david is at work tonight too i have sky so watching baby programmes lol,i had potato bake for tea and my stomach thinks my throats been cut at the moment lol.don't know why but i don't really know wot the kids friends parents are like i don't bother with them my granda takes and picks up my kids from school as i have no car but when i did go they were mainly older and didn't talk to me,i'm not a one for sitting in circles and talking bout my life with loads of people and singing old mcdonald so i never went to toddler groups either,to be honest i didn't fit in and i'm glad cos i like being on my own i like my own space i don't work at the moment but would like to get a job a when this one is 3-4 i was working before i got pregnant and for the first 3 months but it was agency work and it ended.my craving is ice sometimes its icepops,slush puppies and most of the time its pure ice cubes can't seem to get enough just finished some actually lol.

Do u have much support with ur kids? my mam lives 200 miles away i only have my partner and my granda as support but my granda is getting old i get really lonely i don't have any friends maybe 2 which i try to keep in touch with but usually i'm in on my own
i get lonely so getting to chat online helps what about u do u have lots of friends?


lisa

NO !!you must be joking friends what are those????All my so called friends stopped bothering with me when i got married and had children.I still see people who were my friends and they are so still single and going out every weekend so we just dont have anything in common anymore they dont understand that i cant just get up on a friday night and go out.They pea me off really they alawys make out that they'll come over and we'll do somthing but they never do.Its just me and my hubby.His parents live miles away and mine are just down the road but they hardly ever help out.My mum interfears with things and thinks shes helping when shes not.We have had to everything ourselves and are having a bad time at the moment with money etc.Our car we bought last year was a load of crap so we gave it back to the garage we have now bought a new one but havent got it yet as we still have some to pay and it needs tax and insurance.We are renting off the council and they have messed up all our rent account.We have so many bills and new baby stuff to pay for and we have sky aswell but as we didnt pay our bill yet we have been cut off (DAMN IT)i love the baby programes i think ive seen every single one but there always repeats.mark is still not back and i am soooooobored babys moving all over the place.I just eat an ice pol its proberly made him hyper!!xx

i know what you mean bout bills they do your head in i've been sticking to paying everything i sat down made a list and i pay some weekly and the rest monthly,we are getting the maternity grant within the next week or two so its not so bad,i'm gonna buy my stuff off ebay i don't need fancy stuff its all new what i'm getting just loads cheaper for example cot with mattress brand new �69.50.

davids on 3-11 so hes due in soon then i can get some sleep i can't go to bed or settle down till hes home hes everything to me i suppose i miss him more than i admit when hes at work but he pinches the pc from me when he gets home lol,i know wot u mean bout those friends who says they will come round and never do its there loss i just make a point of letting them know when they become mums hope no-one treats them the way they have me

lisa

HI lisa we have brought stuff off ebay and ive just ordered a cot.Mark means everything to me i surpose im too clingy but then hes my only friend(BOO HOO)oh god that sounds so sad.Marks not back yet but he nicks the pc from me too.Hope you get some sleep and talk to ya tomorrow im intending to lie in xx

HI lisa and brooklyn so much for my lie in mark didnt get back till midnight and by then i was over tired and couldnt sleep so we sat up and watched a dvd til 3 and then mark left for work this morning at 7.30 and i had to get up really coz Dylan was already in the living room watching tv and i tried to get him to lie down in bed with me but he just wont stay still.So by 8 tyler was awake and i had to run round on there demands,then my mum and sister turned up just to have a coffee which i cant stand the smell of ive really gone off it and that was enough to make me sick luckily i made it in time to the toilet.I feel like crap now and i look a mess but i just cant be bothered to do anything.Dont know if you feel more tired with your pregnancy being the forth one?I do i have really low iron aswell so im on iron tablets which has made my tummy horrible and caused me to be constipated and cause piles (YUCK) i had them after giving birth to both boys but they went straight away this time theve appeared while im pregnant.Evn though they are so common in pregnancy its still so embaressing to talk about it.Have you thought about a birth plan or anything yet?what were your other labours like?

hi jayne you sound like you've had a morning and a half,i have just got online my pc broke on me so i thought so uninstalled stuff and turns out the phone had just come out so had to reinstall everything and i'm here,you should try being at mine on a saturday my partner has 2 kids to his ex so when brooklyn comes we will have 6 kids 2 watch on a saturday fun or what lol 5 boys and caitlin.my labours were really easy last was 3 and half hours so hoping to go quicker this time only have gas and air with pethidine the epidural scares me. i've never had piles or low iron so i consider myself very lucky my birth plan is not to have one lol

HI ya i bet yo think my name is jayne well thats my middle name my first is clara its pronounced clare RA i ment to say last night i couldnt have my name on the chat regisration for some reason so i picked jayne instead.Anyway 5 boys wow!!my hubby has 7 sisters and 3 brothers,theres 11 children including him from the ages of 25 down to 5.Im one of 5 i have 3 bros (prob where ive got it from)and a sister.I could never have 11 its like a school in there house theres just never a moment when his parents have time to himself.Think of all the grandkids they'll get.My labour with Dylan was forever in total it was 3 days.Dylan was facing the wrong way to be born and was also in an awkward position plus it being my first baby my body took ages to dilate so i was in no end of pain but never getting any where i was sent home from hospital as i was 2 cm and spent hourw walking around at home.It was horrible all this started on late tuesday night and i was 5 cm and taken to hospital on the thursday afternoon much to my delight and i had gas and air and lots of pethidine he was finally born at 7.30 friday morning weighing 8 lb1oz and i couldnt even hold him for hrs after i was so exhausted me and mark just slept on the ward.I was going to have a ventouse but didnt need to and i didnt have any stitches i just grazed a little and that was enough.Tyler wasa different story i started getting contractions at about 8 in the morning and rang my mum at 9 to come over we got to hospital at 10 and tyler was born at 11.02 it was so quick i only had gas and air as the midwife had only really got it for me he was 8 lb 50z and no stitches either.So im hoping this one will be like tylers im hoping for a water birth this time as i think it might be nice but you just dont know how you'll feel till the day.This girl who i met on another site is a single mum and only 17 and she had a baby boy and was in labour for 20hrs and had an active birth and only gas and air (i thought that was amazing of her)I dont like epidurals either they scare me although you can get mobile ones now where you can still walk around.

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sorry i ain't been on davids had pc most of the day only got on as hes off to the shops lol,i had 3 day labour with tyler but had to because they needed to give him drugs to help mature his lungs with him being a 25 weeker he was born at 4:54am,with kieran he was a 29 weeker i had an 8 hour labour he was born at 2:43am then caitlin i was induced 5 days early due to a bleed and was in labour 3 + half hours she was born at 3:25pm,i have a half sister 2 full sisters and a half brother i'm the second oldestmy mam had all girls and my dad had a son with another women.Age wise we are 26,25,24,23 + 21 my brother being the youngest.i don't like the idea of someone putting a needle in my back i guess scared i'd be paralysed

lisa

HI ya lisa sorry its late ive been watching never been kissed with drew barrymore in it and stuffing my face as usal i also had a white chocolate magnam emmmmmm When you had Tyler did you get to see him straight away?How long was he in hospital for? it must of been scary having your baby so early,how much did he weigh? id better try and get some sleep now hope you have a good nights sleep i have to sleep with the fan on as i get so hot and poor mark is always frezing.xx oh by the way heres my email address incase you want to send me an email instead of talking about things on here coz obviously others can read it. grand.23@ntlworld.com

HI lisa and brooklyn havent heard from you so i thought id just say hi and see how youre doing.Its my birthday today and as you can tell i have spare time on my hands so its not as good as i had hoped.Had a brief pub lunch with my family and that was that!!!!my sister has to stay over incase we deceide to go the cinema but its 7.00 and the boys are only just eating dinner!!!!!How is baby brooklyn today is he kicking you a lot? I told my family we are calling our baby FELIX today and my mum laughed at first but i just ignored her and now shes saying it will grow on her (like its any of her buisness anyway!!!) oh well had better go chat to you soon!!! clara + Felix

hi clara

so sorry just a quick msg my pc has been broken just got it back from the shop today sorry i missed ur birthday hope it was fun catch up soon take care

lisa + brooklyn (30 weeks)