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Im 17 weeks in my first pregnancy and although im excited about becoming a mum i feel that all my aims in life and future goals have been completely thrown out the door by everyone around me. I feel guilty for wanting anything for myself and i feel guilty for not wanting to drop everything and gush over my unborn child. I feel as though the person who i was before the pregnancy has been lost and i fear that i will never get her back...Is this wrong and am i normal?

Rell-bell, I dont know if this is normal as I am yet to fall pregnant but I do not think that it is wrong. Just because you are pregnant and about to become a mother doesn't mean you should lose your identity, in fact I think it is very important that you retain your identity to show your child. I think being a woman is a very difficult ything because you are many things to many different people, but being woman should be a good experience not a bad one.

Why can't you still have future goals and aims? It's about getting the balance right. If you want to teach your child to have ambition and goals in life then surely they should see that their mother has them as well. Yes 1 of your goals is to be the best mother you can be, but equally you are entitiled to be whatever else you want to be.

My advice would be, be true to yourself, fulfill your potential and never stop trying to be the best you can in all aspects of life. If you feel fulfilled then so will your child. good Luck and dont let anyone tell you what you should be feeling/doing/thinking/aiming for.