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Starsign

2 days left. I can't wait! How are you holding up? I am trying not to think about it and keep busy

Emma xxx

Hi ladies

Cathy, well I have to agree with Trad. I was married before and thankfully (I think) there were no kids so the split was very amicable and friendly - however it means I am not much of an authority on DB/DH and children from other relationships.

As an outsider, it does seem to me that your guy could end up being resentful to your son. As an ex- secondary school teacher, I can say they do need to know at what point there will be no tolerance of unruly behaviour and they do get a shock sometimes when you actually stick to that rule. However your son might resent it if your man tries to assert some authority over him as chances are your son sees DB as your partner, and not as a figure who has the right to assert any authority where he is concerned. Indeed, your man may feel awkward about whether he has the right to tell your son off, so then you have a stalemate - your son feels he can do what he likes as he doesn't respect your guy's authority and your guy feels powerless as far as your son is concerned. That may be getting to your DB, hence he is reacting the way he is.

I do apologise if I am talking out of turn here or have in any way offended you. It's a tricky situation.

You know he loves you!!

S xxx

Oooh Emma! We can't wait but I am like you and trying not to think about it. Luckily the scan is in the morning so we won't have long to wait. The whole family is all geared up to know the sex, especially my 7 yr old niece, who is convinced it's a girl. Eeeek!

What advice did you get re bladder fullness? On my appointment form, the instruction about having a full bladder was all crossed out so I am assuming I don't have to.

S xxx

Starsign,

Mine wasn't crossed out but I think yours is the correct one as now it is so big you don't need to drink as much.

Sending lots of lucky dust over so that both our beanies are in fine and healthy condition. I am also excited about finding out the sex.

Emma xx

Loads of lucky dust to you too!!

Touch base on Friday???

S xxxxx

Emma, just saw you're off on hols on Saturday - have a brilliant time. We're off to Hungary the following Saturday for a week. Can't wait.

xx

on the letter for my 20 week scan there was no mention of a full bladder but when i had a 10 week one it said 1 pint 1 hour before (water that is ha ha) but the woman doin the scan said that my bladder was only partially full AND on my next scan i need to drink alot more water so they can see properly and specially if i want a clear picture? so am not sure now??!

i have always said that when i get pregnant i wouldnt want to find out what it is. that is one thing that is stoppin me because everyone knows this so if i find out i wil feel silly ha ha. tho i am really impatient and the thought of the person doing the scan knowing and not me is really annoying. so i still dont know and will probably change my mind 300 times before the 7th!!

i just gotta keep fingers crossed that all will turn out ok after the baby comes because both me and my partner are living with my mum n dad until next xmas to save for our own place. we are really gratefull they are letting us but it could get complicated lol any advice on this situation would be apprichiated lol.

hope everyone is well, has anyone got a bump yet cos i have but i thought it was 2 early? x

Hi!

Thanks for your advice Trad and Starsign! I appreciate it!

The problem is the kids already have a Father (we were divorced in 2002), they see a few times a week (more than the norm, as we decided to let the kids decide when they saw Mum & Dad..not just every 2nd weekend..so they basically live at two houses). DB doesn't feel quite like he should step in and discipline them. But gets frustrated at the same time being 'the other man' at times. He has on occasion told the kids off (and I have no problem with it), he hardly ever does it and is never abusive or unfair. But I don't know how my son sees him. When my son was 2 he seemed to see DB as a bit of a threat. I was on the sofa and DB was new and giving me a hug and my son just STARED at him like "what the hell do you think you are doing with MY Mummy". I think my son has always seen himself as 'the man of the house' (my little man). He has warmed to DB a bit since, but I think he still feels distant towards DB or disrespects him somehow as 'just the guy that comes and visits Mummy'. For this reason it makes it hard to imagine living together right now. I also think I need to be stronger in the discipline dept, as he doesn't get away with certain things at his Dad's house that he does at mine (so daughter tells me).

The thing is....if he does move in with me....will it make son worse and rebel more? In that case, we would rather leave it. Or would it make him better and respect DB more as a Father figure? Hard to know what to do. I am not going to move in with DB just to please people. Don't worry about that. My kids will always come first. And DB cares too much to do that either.

Also DB is going through a lot with his Dad being told he has just 6 months to live now. He's a mess. He apologised for going off at me. He's just under a lot of stress/worry with work and his Dad.

Anyway...life is never easy. I know raising boys is supposed to be harder/different approach than girls..maybe I should read a book. My daughter is just giving me no grief at all. She's totally happy with the situation, likes DB and is so looking forward to the new baby.

Cathy

On the scan situation...don't burst your bladder. I did that once (drank way too much) and was in agony (cause they kept me waiting too long too!). Got told to let out some water. I think 4 cups of water is enough. I only drank 3 actually as I have sjogrens syndrome (dry mouth) and drink too much anyway! There is more amniotic fluid in there than an early pregnancy, so not as much water is needed. I have another scan at 34 weeks...definitely not gonna bother that time as only checking placenta position.

Tiamaria...as far as finding out the sex goes...first baby I think its really a delight (after all the hours of labour) to have a nice surprise at the end!! I've had two 'surprises' and loved it! I turned around after giving birth to my son and no one said anything. I found out myself.."oh! I have a son!" I thought that was one of the nicest things..no one told me "you have a boy/girl"...they let me find out for myself. Having had a boy and girl already now though, I felt like I wanted to know this time around (plus my DB wanted to know...ex DH didn't want to know). Helps you to bond and plan stuff. It's nice for other kids to know too! :-) Yasmin is SOO excited I'm having a girl!! Ronan wanted a girl too. But he's not as much into the whole baby thing as my daughter...must be a female thing hehe.

Cathy

MY SCAN DATE IS HERE. YIPPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. I am so excited. 29th November. A week Tuesday. Have told hubby to book day off and will see the school about taking the little ones along. It won't be a problem, lots of kids at the school recently have had new additions and they all went along. They have been really looking forward to this, they will be so excited. My eldest daughter can't come because of mock GCSES so we will get a photo. better than nothing although it would have been nice to all be there. Its really good because at the moment one day seems to melt into the next with no milestones lately and now we have a date. funnily enough, people keep saying everything will be fine and I'm like yeah I know, I just want to see pickle but I have just realised that everyone else (adults) are thinking about if baby is ok physically. that was a shock. I just always assumed that everything was. nothing feels wrong and you think that you would know. I know this can be wrong but no one assumes there might be something wrong surely when there is no reason to. Anyway I am going to dance around the bedroom because I am still excited, I am surprised I stayed still long enough to write this message.

Trad

That's great Trad!! Glad you have a scan date finally! Not long to go now! I know I started counting down when I had just under two weeks to go hehe.

I too worried about baby being ok. Though when you've had healthy babies already you do feel like luck is on your side (but things happen I guess). I was so excited to find out the sex for the first time, I tried not to get toooo excited as I knew the main reason is to check baby's health. And as it is, I do have the placenta problem possibly...but I'm remaining positive it will move up as in Yasmin's pregnancy. And if this baby is breech I'm gonna do handstands or anything to try and get it to move!! A lady at my school even says she stuck a bag of frozen peas on her baby's head and that did the trick...poor baby haha.

Good luck and take care all Mums/Moms/Mams and their bumps! :-)
Cathy

I did hear that about if a baby is breech to put a frozen bag of peas on your stomach. That was on Portland babies. I suppose any frozen veg would do though. Its not something in the peas. ha ha

Taking son to opticians in a moment but just wanted to know if anyone is suffering severe amnesia since they became pregnant. I have been quite bad since the beginning and have to write absoulutely everything down. The other day I was calling for my son for tea out the front and couldn't see him and was on the verge on panicking when my daughter remembered I'd told him he could go to his friends house. It is really bad and I am a little worried. Any one else suffering.

Trad

Hi ladies

Trad, great on the scan date - fantastic!!!!!!!! Er, regarding amnesia..what was it you asked again? Lol, only joking. Well I think I am doing OK - I sometimes forget little things but I don't think I'm much worse than normal.

Cathy, I hope things will work themselves out with you and DB. It is a delicate situation. Please keep us updated.

Tiamaria - I checked the appointment form for the scan tomorrow and the line which talks about full bladder has definitely been scored out. I am assuming it's cause baby & uterus is bigger now so you don't need a full bladder to push the uterus up.

For the first time this pregnancy I am suffering from heartburn. I was starving so scoffed an apple really quickly then a banana (due to lack of chocolate biscuits!)and just about 5 minutes later it started. Luckily we have a full bottle of Gaviscon. By the way is anyone else feeling almost constantly hungry?

Interesting about the frozen peas!

Hope all you April mums & bumps are well.

Starsign xx

Morning ladies

Well, scan today! We are excited! I had a dream last night that I had a lovely home birth - it was a boy. Later on I had to change baby's nappy from when the midwife had put one on and I was using a re-useable one. Then I realised I hadn't actually fed the baby at all and my bbs were leaking, so I breastfed him - he took to it like a duck to water.

Strange - the scan must have been playing on my mind. Well we'll see if the dream was accurate and it is a boy!

The scan's at 11.40, but I won't be able to post to let you all know until later in the afternoon.

Take care all.

Starsign xx