Hi there ladies, my best friend has been having IVF and yesterday found out that it had failed. I need to know what I can do to help. I feel so helpless and so want to be there for her but I don't know how, especially as I'm 5 months PG and I understand that seeing me may be tough for her at the moment.
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Posts: 96 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 04 October 2005
I have had a simular thing myself. My mate was on ivf and she got pregnant and her baby was due the same day as mine. But at 23 weeks her baby died inside her and she had to give birth to her dead baby. I have found it hard, but as everyone suggested just be there for her, she will get in touch if she feels up to it. send a card with a message saying that you are thinking of her and that you are there if she needs you.
Good Luck.
Posts: 3164 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 13 July 2005
Hi Katyjake - I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Best thing you can do is be there if she wants to talk. I had a m/c a few years ago a month or so before a close friend of mine had a baby, and I found it hard, but not impossible. I know it is not the same as IVF, of course.
Lorraine - are you ok? Have emailed you a few times.
Debs
Posts: 601 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 01 March 2005
Thanks for your replies ladies, I phoned her at lunchtime and we had a chat and I've told her she should ring me anytime she wants to talk, day or night. Musswells, I remember your topic about this...how is your friend now?
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Posts: 96 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 04 October 2005
My friend got in touch and showed me pics but it was really hard to deal with, and I was also told when the funeral was. But other than that I have not haerd anything more from her at all. I am playing in by ear as I don't want to push her.
I hope that your friend will be ok and lets hope when they try again ut will be a sucsess. xx
Posts: 3164 | Location: United Kingdom | Registered: 13 July 2005
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