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I am 24 weeks pregnant and when I was 18 weeks my husband decided that he no longer loved me enough and that he wanted a separation. Nice! I was oblivious and thought we were very happy together especially considering we 'both' decided to plan for this baby. Honestly only explaination i received and yes i suspect someone else involved but he is adamant that its not that but will all come out in wash one day. All rather shocking for me and taking each hour/day at a time at the moment. He says he does want to be involved with baby and i believe him which is obviously great for my son (found out last week) but hard to think that he can come into house whenever he wants even if he doesn't deserve it (house in both names) and even though it hurts me to see him.

Everymorning i wake up and think horaay i got through another day and my aim is to wake up and not think anything at all. still can't believe the man i loved , my friend has not only done this but done itb so easily. alot of pain.

I am generally a tough cookie and am feeling positive about the future just got to get through the now for both our sakes. Glad seen husband for what he is and will not be going that path again with him but still painful cos i thought we were solid x


Be so lovely to chat with other mums and single parents especially if anyone has found themselves in a similiar situation. Doesn't seem to be many married women jilted before the big event (tends to be afterwards).


Well thanks for listening everyone and if you ever need a shoulder I am here.


Michelle x

your husband sounds like a right rat and all though it doesn't seem like it now you sound better of without him. I hope u have family near u that can help u get through this. Pretty soon (when's your due date?) u will have a male in your life who will love u no matter what and will never let u down.
Remember not all men are like your husband and u will find someone who deserves u .
If u ever want to chat i'm always hear.

Please help ! I am 21 weeks pregnant and have split from my fiancee. I am a single mother with an 11 year old child and I cant see how I am going to be able to look after this baby alone. I am hurting really bad at the moment and I am thinking about having the child adopted

Losborne,
I am so sorry your partner left but the pain will go away! Although being a single mum isn't easy you learn to coap and it definatly does become second nature to you!
I'm sure your other child would help and i can't imagine your friends and family would see you struggle! You really need to think carfully about what YOU really want to do with your baby, i know someone that had there baby adopted and it was the hardest thing she has ever had to do in her life!
Do you and your fiancee still talk? Does he know what thoughts you have in your head? Do you think he will help you with the baby when it is born? and is there any chance in the future that you could get back together?

Hi,

I don't know whether you are still checking the forum but if you are then I hope you are well and staying strong. My EX husband started an affair when I was 5 months pregnant and left us when my daughter was 6 weeks old. I won't say it was easy at the time and yes it took a lot of time to get over it but now I have the best relationship with my daughter and would never want to go back to the way my lfe was before - wondering where he was and what he was doing etc. The other thing that makes me happy is to think that if I hadn't have met the rat I wouldn't have my daughter now so good things can come out of bad. Good luck to you and if ever you feel low get in touch. Friends and a chat can make all the difference.
Nicky xxx

Hi all,

I'm REALLY sorry to hear all of your stories and I just wanted to tell you about my Mum. My Dad left her when I was just 3 months old and my sister was 4. She had nothing when my Dad left and did struggle money-wise but my sister and I always felt so loved by her. A few years later my Mum went and got herself a degree in fine-art, then took her Maths GCSE and went into Teacher Training! My Dad leaving was the best thing that ever happened to all 3 of us.
I still see him, and he dotes on my daughter (now 1) but every day I'm thankful that he never stayed.

Everything happens for a reason.

The only piece of advise I want to give you single Mum's is to NEVER bad mouth your baby's Dad. If they are an utter ****, then your child will find out for themselves. My Mum never said a bad word against my Dad (even though he had our money reduced by half to pay for his cigarettes by telling the court he got his fags for free... and more) and my sister and I both have our own views and feelings about our Dad.

You can and WILL get through this. Many, many women bring up children on their own and do it well. Just as long as you show your child they are loved.... nothing else matters.

Good luck all of you. I hope I've given you some insipration and that your children can admire you just as much as I admired my Mum. I sadly lost her to Cancer 2 years ago and still miss her desperately.... she never got to see her names-sake; my little girl Heather.

So chin up the lot of you!!! Us women are built to last!!!!
WOMEN RULE!!!!!!!!!

Nicola
xxxxxxx