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hi im new to this site but have a big obsesion with babies. im only 17 and have no direction career wise but want a child more than anything and have felt like this for some time now.Am i being stupid? any advice would be really helpful.

Hi Vicky, when i left school i got a really good job with excellent pay so i was really lucky and couldnt believe how lucky i was. Id never thought about having a baby because i was only 16. At the time id been with my boyfrind for 3years and we had been sleepin together for about 6months. A month after i started my job i found out i was pregnant and was really shocked but so happy. I knew my family would go nuts because they were so proud of me and they all hated my boyfriend so i didnt tell any of them. We went for a scan and i found out i had been pregnant since i did my exams at school and that i was having a baby boy. They told me that if i didnt want the baby i only had 3weeks at the most to do something about it. I didnt tell anyone still and couldnt bear the thought of not keeping him so i did. After a few months they all found out and were more supportive than i ever thought they would be.
He was born a month before my 17th birthday and i dont regret having him at all. Alot of people say ive ruined my life and never got to do the things i should have done but i dont feel like that. I found it easy at that age (and didnt have help from anyone because i was determined to cope on my own)
I think if you really want it and are sure its what will make you happy then go for it, i know your young and alot of people will say im wrong but only you know what you really want and how you really feel

thanku so much, i no how much i want a child but am so scared of what the family will say. Im scared of what people will think and my parents are so proud of me. Ive been with my boyfriend going on two years and he loves the idea as he's 24 this year but i havent got a place to go to yet and i have said 2my mum id move out if i got pregnant. I think im scared as im not going to be able to do all them things in life that people talk about but then again what are those things?besides getting drunk etc, i think im not sure how ill cope!how have you done it?thanks again vicky

Hi Vicky, i think anyone that is young will be scared of what their parents will say but its only because you know they love you and want the best for you, just dont argue with them about it because that will make it harder and as for other people...its doesnt matter what anyone else thinks, you dont live you life to make other people happy, obviously its easier if everone is happy including you but in the long run its your happiness were talking about. When my son was born i had nowhere to go and couldnt afford to move out but my mum was happy for us to stay with her then when he was about 8months old i wanted my own indipendance so went to the council and they put me up in a B&B for 10 months, which wasn't all that but i was on my way to getting my own place, then i was moved on to a better bedsit sort of place for another 10months but finally i was offered a lovely 2bedroom flat and ive been here for just over 2years now and am about to have my 2nd baby, i dont regret anything ive done and im very happy with the way i done things.
Its good that you have a boyfriend and its lasted this long and if he is happy to have a baby thats even better! As for the things you wont get to do...of course you will! Having a baby doesnt end your life, for the first few months i didnt go out or anything but occasionally my mum/dad/boyfriend would offer to babysit and i would get a night out also having a baby at this age means your still young when they have grown up and you can do everything you want to. Like i said, ive found it easy and if i could go back to change anything thats happened i would do everything the same again.
If you wanna talk some more leave me your email
Kat x

thanku my email is vicky250787@hotmail.com