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o no!! im so sorry to hear that monkeygirl [] loadsa loadsa hugs.... at least , like u sed, uve found out u r able to conceive and u r totally healthy inside...so dont give up hope..uve had it real stressful with traveling and ur dads passing..u poor thing...i think u shud just relax and forget about TTC for a bit...it can get really stressful hun..and u got nothng to worry about not being able to. sending u loadsa hugs.... xxx

Hi there

I just wanted to say much the same as Leah really. I had a complete m/c 4 and a bit years ago. I had terrible backpain and cramps and was doubled over in pain almost, also loads of bleeding but an early scan showed sac in womb and I was told prob implantation bleeding and come back in two weeks. I had two weeks of hell waiting (bleeding still for a while) and on my supposed 8 week early scan I had an empty womb. I found it really hard as my then fiance (now hubby) and I wanted the baby so much.

Anyhow, I then got pregnant (happy accident) in Nov 2004 and on Nov 2005 I gave birth to the most beautiful little girl, Lauren. I cant say I was completely relaxed the whole time, I paniced about bleeding and even after 12 and 24 weeks and right up to her birth I was anxious, but I do have a beautiful, healthy, very cheeky 4 month old and I can not even remember life without her about. I can remember being petrified and in tears at my 20 week scan, not having my blood taken till 24 weeks (petrified needles - good job i had it done im rhesus neg)

I have another friend who had a missed m/c then d and c and she now has 2 x healthy children.

I will always remember the baby I lost. My niece is 3 mid Jan and my lost baby would be 4, but I am so grateful for being given the gift of a healthy child.

Also do note that not all pains/bleedings means something is wrong, but of course take advise. My mum had bleeding when she was expecting me a couple of times. I had pains for a week after conceiving Lauren.

If you want a chat, or need any advise, feel free to email me

ebay@quality-bargains.co.uk. I have made some lovely friends on this board incl Leah.
Take care

Lots of love

Deb x

Thanks Deb, you are right, it will happen for us, it's just so frustrating when it seems like never never land.

Anita I am so sorry to hear about your scan. Did they take blood from you ? I am sure it's the exact same thing that has happened to me, she said I would only be or have been around 4 weeks pg, but she also said that it was probably too early to show up ! So, to be on the safe side she has taken bloods and I have to go back in 48 hours to give more, to check HCG levels. But, in my heart of hearts I know it's over and it's probably already gone. So sorry to hear about your Father too. It must be making things alot harder to cope with. Just make sure you cut yourself a bit of slack and pamper yourself.

Anyway, chin up chuckles and as you say there is a bright side, at least we know something is working - next time eh !

Anita and Sus... I'm so sorry about your scan results. As you've both said... at least you know you can get pregnant. I had a really early m/c at just over 4 wks in Nov and although it was really upsetting and disappointing I just kept telling myself that at least I know my body can still do it. As luck would have it I fell preg again in Dec. So take it easy and try and stay positive. It will happen xxxxx

oh im sorry anita and sus but you never know it could be too early it was for me with max i had to go back a few times i had convinced myself it was going to be bad it was such a shock when they said they found a heartbeat!
please stay posotive, it must be hard with all that goes on in your lives and the best advice is to try and relax its very difficult i know to doit, to be very honest i was a little worse for wear when i fell pregnant with max, my hubby and i had actually split up at the time and he came round for some reason dont ask me why now, but a few drinks maybe a botlle or two of wine and bobs your uncle and judy is your aunt i fell pregnant and i think it was lucky timing obviously but i was relaxed for once in my life.
these things can take over your life i have the hat and the t shirt to prove that.
please stay strong relax and enjoy trying again if things do go wrong.x my email is lindseyleah@hotmail.com if you evr want to chat as debs aid we are good friends now and these boards are aq real life line you are never on your own.x
hope evrything works out
leah.x

Anita, so sorry to hear about your scan. No matter how much you prepare yourself for it being a m/c it still hurts like hell when it is confirmed. You really seem to have the right attitude (if that's possible) and i think an month or so of being kind to yourself and you'll be right on track.

Sus - it's the waiting that is the toughest bit i think, bet it feels like forever till you get the results on monday. With my first m/c at about 5 or 6 weeks i had sore boobs but the second one at 4 or 5 weeks i had no symptoms. However, when you read the beginning of any of the Due In March, April, Aug etc they are all saying that they haven't got any or many symptoms yet so don't necessarily take that as a bad sign. The bloods will give you a definate yes or no.

The raw emotion that you feel initially does ease away, i felt as though all the hormones running around my body were contributing to it, and you will feel better in time. Some people take longer than others to recover emotionally so just take your time, use the support networks that you have around you and vent your anger or frustrations as you need to. Then when you are ready - get back in the saddle!

x x x

Leah, Summer, Fazia, Kate, Dippy and Noo, thanks so much - you are very special ladies, thank you it means alot.

Anita hope you are ok hon. I am fine, was down about it last night and still a bit gutted but hey ho !

Thanks again girls - means the world

Sus
xxxxx

Hi Sus

If you want to talk, feel free to email me debbietalbot@speedpost.net.

Take care hon.


Debs x