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I am just going to ask before i start saying anything - is this too insensitive to have on a pregnancy message board? If it is, please say so because i would hate to offend or upset anyone.

I just wonder if there is anybody else who is going through miscarriage or bleeding at the moment and needs a bit of support. I only recently found this message board and have found it so helpful and supportive during my early PG woes. Now i am having a m/c i don't really want to let it go! It is so good to be able to share your feelings with people who know what you are going through.

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Hi Noo

I am sorry to hear that you are going through a bad time. Think that most will be ok with you posting on here, we are all here to help each other if we can. My friend lost her baby at 23 weeks so I have been finding that real hard I have another post started saying I am upset. I hope I can help if I am needed.
Love Lorraine. x

I dont think its insenstitive at all,Ive had both healthy pg and had 2 mc's now and think its a worry everyone on a pg board has so Im sure no one will mind us posting.

Hi Noo, so sorry your going through this aswell. I was 7+4 by my dates but sack shown up 5wk on Monday so just thought it was early pg but I started with really heavy bleeding yesterday afternoon so I know its all over now. The pain is horrendous!
I had a mc in March also,but felt alot more positive about this one, think im in shock a bit as I seem to be coping ok with it all.
I had to have a blood hcg on Monday after my scan and have been in for another one today to check on what the levels are doing but im pretty sure they are dropping now. (I was on the July thread btw!)

question:
I dont remember when my symptoms stopped last time, does anyone know how long it will take for my boobs to stop hurting??

Hey girls - I am sooo sorry to hear what you are going through and it is a brilliant idea to start a thread so that everyone can support you.

Missc - Your boobs should stop hurting after about 14 days but it could be less hun as everyone is different.

Love Jen

Hi girls

I was on the July thread too but miscarried at 5 weeks 5 days a month ago. My boobs stopped hurting immediately but it was only the nipples that were a bit tender. I have now finished my 1st period so fingers crossed for this month. Boring isn't it! I have had 3 MC's now, 2 in the last 5 months.

Sam

so sorry for you aswell Sam, you only realise how common mc is when you join a pg board, its so sad that we're all having to go through this.[]

(((missc/mantha/noo)))

real sorry to hear of ur m/cs ....must be so hard..but u gals sound so strong.

noo...this topic..unfortuantely does come up a bit ...and i think to say people would get offended , i personally , think its rather sheltered..anyone TTC/PG is aware of the risks of PG and therefore we r all here to help u get thorough this tough time in ur life.

the ladies on the august thread (wer u wer right) are lovely and most of them r from the 2WW thread...wenever u feel ready u r more than welcom eot join us there for support and hopefully ull graduate back to the PG threads asap.

missc sorry bleeding is so heavy...hope u feel better soon. must be tough for u ((()))

mantha. poor u...uve had it rough...hope that u dont have to face such a difficult time again.

xxx

I have had lots of pain this time which was a shock to me because the last one was virtually pain free. My GP has given me some codeine now which is doing the trick.

I have new found respect for people who have natural deliveries now though - wow that must hurt! My GP was saying though that your experience of pain changes depending on what the outcome i.e m/c feels worse because you are also losing a baby, whilst giving birth is a lot more painful, you have a baby at the end so the experience tends to be more positive - in most cases!

Last time my boobs stopped hurting after a few days but the bleeding took about 3 weeks to stop so i'm expecting similar this time.

It is good to know that other people have had more than one m/c. I kind of expected one as i know so many people who have had one, almost felt like it was a right of passage. This one was a bit harder to take but i had time to get prepared because i had a bit of a bleed last friday so thought that this could happen. Emotionally i feel better every day - it's the hormones that seem to contribute to making me feel more emotional so i think they must be going down a bit too.

I didn't have a period in between m/c so i plan to do that this time then see what happens []

hi noo

I dont remember it being this painful last time either, its very strange. the bleeding isnt as bad today but the stomach cramps are still the same.

I dont know when I will start ttc again, I dont think we will use anything but I wont be looking out for signs of ovulation this month - I have pcos so it takes me along time to concieve anyway. I just think we'll enjoy xmas and see what the new year brings!

I seem to be ok emotionally, last time I was a wreck but this time im coping well. I had a good cry this morning but have been fine since -I too dont think the hormones help! Guess we'll have good days and bad.

I know we'll all come through this and have healthy happy pregnancies soon xxx

hello girls

glad to hear that you are both okay...have been thinking about you today and sending you lots of hugs (((((())))))).

Take care of yourselves...will keep looking in on you to see how you are doing.

xx

Hi Girls,

How is everyone feeling?

I felt v. dizzy and sick this morning but managed to put it down to the codeine - phew that stuff is strong! I have been feeling positive again today, looking forward to christmas and all the stuff that goes with it. It'll be time to try again in no time i'm sure.

I have PCOS too so thought it would take ages to conceive, so we were really lucky when it only took 3 months. Thought it was just a fluke and that it would take ages the next time but we managed it before AF arrived again. It is quite odd, we were so sure that it would be getting pregnant that would be the problem, turns out it might be staying pregnant that appears more tricky. I'm a stubborn woman though - takes more that that to put me off!

The only thing i'm not looking forward to is going back to work, was off weds because i'd been up all night tues, then today because i was still in pain. I don't think i'll go in tomorrow either because i still feel really weak and feenble and, although i am feeling positive, my emotions are still all over the place. It wouldn't take much to set me off crying and then i would have to tell everyone and i really don't want to do that. I think i will take tomorrow off too and go back fresh after the weekend.

I really hope that everyone else is doing ok []

noo hon, i am sure your Gp would give you a sick note - especially if you are feeling dizzy from the codeine, you may not be ok driving.

Don't go back until you are ready.

Take care, good to hear you sounding so positive - as you say, you know you can do the first bit ok, its just a case of getting over the next hurdle now. It might be worth asking your Dr if you need any meds, i have heard that metformin may reduce the miscarriage rate in PCOS - might be worth a referral to a gynaecologist for an expert opinion?

bye for now
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hi noo

I agree - dont go back to work until your ready!

I Took metformin throughout this pg and it didn't help [] Ive heard it can help though so def worth asking your gynae about.

I was sposed to get a call from my gynae yesterday (who is usually really good) but he didn't call!! I called the hosp and the nurse told me at 3pm that he has the results and will call me back during the afternoon - I'll have to call again today toremind themim still waiting! Iknow what the outcome is, but would like to speak to him about whether he's going to do anything nxt.

Hope your well, sorry for my waffle lol xxx

hi noo (and sam?)

How are you?
Im having a tough day today, feeling really sad and mad at the world![]Im also worried about an infection in my uterus? I have tenderness on my lower tum and it hurts to touch. The bleeding has eased an awful lot now though, im just spotting every now and then, How are you getting on??

I still havent heard from my doc, so he will get severe ear ache from me tomorrow[!]

I hope you are feeling ok and coping well
Erica xxx

I have found that Drs can be really rubbish during this m/c and my last one. When i read about people getting scans and examinations it surprises me because i haven't been offered any of that. On the day when i was in loads of pain and bleeding lots i called my GP at 9am and had to call back twice before he eventually called me at 4:30!

It feels as though they think that it is a minor thing and to expected in early pregnancy, the first time my GP sounded surprised when i had had an hCG rise - almost as though he hadn't really believed i was pregnant!

I too have had an emotional couple of days, really tearful and angry at the wrold. I was so looking forward to Christmas but now i'm struggling a bit with it. I do feel better today and am back at work. I think at the beginning it is the hormones that make the emotion feel worse and more intense.

My bleeding is tailing right off now and boobs not sore so hoping it is all out of my system and i can get my smile back!

Erica, i wonder if the tenderness in your tummy is just because of the loss. Do you feel unwell, have a temperature or is the blood you are loosing offensive smelling? I have been getting the odd bit of tummy ache which i had put donw to the after effects of being in pain last week.

I hope that you are doing OK today, let us know how you get on with your GP

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