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Hello ladies.

I just wanted to give you all a huge hug, and wish you well. I know how hard it can be trying each month, and I just wanted to let you all know that you are all in my thoughts.

Wishing you all the success in the world.

lots of love

Chinup.
x

sparkle!!
hey girl i have missed you! Thank you for starting this thread, i do feel your pain, i, like you started TTC in April and every month nothing[] Many relatives and friends are currently pregnant and i can see it hurts DH as much as me because he wants to be a father so bad (and a good one at that) We have no children, i have never been pregnant (that i know of) and he has never gotten anyone pg (that he knows of). It is crazy that i spent so many years taking the pill and using the NuvaRing and we have been having unprotected sex for almost three years. Everyone keeps asking when we are going to have kids (iam 34 and DH is 31) it hurts your feelings and makes you want to cry....[V][V][V]
But somehow we carry on. I have a follow up GYN app't today. In jluy i had a vag. ultra sound and they said my ovaries, tubes, and follicles looked "pretty" DH is having his sperm analyzed this week so hopefully all goes well and our timing is a little off. we will see. I hope it happens for all of us who have been waiting soooooo long.
thanks again for letting me vent. It's hard being jealous and happy for those who are pg at the same time....so frustrating.....
noodle
forgot to add....had been taking prenatals (started again today) using OPK's, should have a positive OPK today and O tom.

Hello all, I'm Jilli. I just wanted to add my story. I am on my 8th month of temping. We have been TTC before then, but not temping. I started temping when my gyne told me that I wasn't OVing. (I had a progesterone test done) I found this site and am so very grateful for all of the ladies on here for being so supportive. I took AC for 3 months and started temping and can proudly say that I have OV'd every month that I've been temping. Sparkle, I am like you in regards to OVing around CD17-19. I guess that I shouldn't complain because of the fact that I am indeed OVing. I just figured that I would have more chances if I was textbook CD14. The thing that I don't understand is that I am OVing each month and I time BD perfectly. When I had a VIP membership to FF, I would always have high chances because we BD on the correct days. I just have to believe that my time will come and good things come to those who wait.
Love, Luck & Babydust,
~Jilli TTC 8mos.

hey jilli- we x-posted... i am with you girl, the timing is "perfect" in your head and every month my DH says "we just made a baby" and you hope and pray and here comes the dreaded witch...AF hex to you this month double time[}][}][}] [}][}][}]

Sparkle - Like you I never thought that I would still be here. You know my story, but I here it is anyway...

Have had three pgs - April 2001 - found out at 16 wk scan that baby had died. March 2002 DS born (had preeclampsia from 32 weeks[xx(]) November 2003 - Found out at 12 week scan that baby had died. Had Merina coil removed in June 2005. I expected to conceive really quickly as the longest it took us in the other three was two cycles!. AF is due Christmas eve.

It is okay to be p*ssed off and if every girl on this string was honest with herself you can't help but feeling a pang of jealousy with every BFP announced. You would never wish a BFN on anyone but it's okay to be a "me me me" every now and then[]

Santa - If you are listening old chap beanies by the buckful over this way!!![]

Love from the TTCing ladies XX

Christmas babydust to all

Touchwood XX

Hey everyone []
My good friend Loocy told me about this new thread. I've avoided posting for a long time, mainly for the same reasons as alot of you other girls. Anyway, hope you don't mind me joining you as this thread is a brill idea!
Bit about me:
Ttc since August 03 - #1.
Me 30 - Dh also 30
Married 5 yrs
Tried everyone, herb, spell and potion in the world (or at least it seems that way!)
Dh has had Sa - it was fine.

I've had laparoscopy, HSG, blood tests and Ultrasound - all have been fine and I'm now just waiting for an appt with gyn to find out what happens next - should be soon after Christmas. In the meantime i have another blood test next Thursday. It is really frustrating, especially since they can't find anything to fix! But at least I feel as though something's getting done.

Oh, I also believe I had a chemical pregnancy round about the same time as Loocy.
I've got loads of catching up to do with you girls, so just bare with me.

Take care - Leigh xxxx

Leigh you just about summed up how I was feeling as well...[]

See this is why I started the thread. When I first joined full of optimism I was like all of you in thinking it will deff happen surely within 6 months.. Yet here a lot us still are.

I do not want to take anything away from the success of the other threads that have been started, as you can see I myself started the 2WW thread but there were times when I wanted to post but surrounded by the eternal optimism of the newbies and the eventual BFP's from some of the older members it just seemed to get harder and harder. Every month the POAS senario followed by all the wise words of wisdom from everyone and hoping just hoping but in the back of my mind just knowing it was not going to happen..

SO anyway we are coming up to a New Year and for some of us hopefully this will be our year but we have to accept for some of us it may not happen just yet...

As for my story lol well like some of you I have been pregnant, 3 times in fact but never got past 9 weeks. SO some of you might think oh she's been PG so why is she moaning but being PG and actually giving birth are 2 different things .......

Anyway if you want to shout, scream, cry, feel resentful, moan and groan etc etc do it here!! lol

Sparklekiss x

Sparklekiss, Loocy, Jilli, Touchwood, everyone, I hope you don't mind me just adding a few words...

Sparkle, this thread is a great idea. As you know Dh and I tried for 9 months and I know how heartbreaking each month can be. I don't want to upset anyone with cliched words and phrases but I just wanted to wish my 'old' friends every success, happiness, luck, babdydust for the New Year and let you know I'm thinking and praying for you.

((((((((((((to you all))))))))))))))))))

Take care, Syd.

Sparklekiss,

I read this today and thought what a bloody brilliant idea.
Like every other woman who has posted here I never thought I would be still here a year after TTC. I have been taking a backseat with posting here the last few weeks as I got so disillusioned with all the BFP's that were happening on the 2WW. I am delighted for everyone who has become pregnant, but just like you keep wondering why not me?
It got so bad that I thought I was cracking up last week and even went so far as to tell my husband I wanted to break up! I just felt I couldn't cope and he was giving me very little support.
We sat and talked for a long time and i cried a lot, something I haven't done in ages as I was trying to be so bloody strong. Unfortunately it ended up blowing up in both our faces!
My problem is that I am a perfectionist and throw myself 100% into everything in my life. I like being in control of things and murphys law kicked in and has said no way lady am I making this easy for you[}]. So I have turned into a frantic out of control lunatic instead and its making me and my husband miserable.
We are ok now and it was really only said in the heat of my anger and frustration, my poor hubby got a fright when I said it but it also woke him to the fact that I was on the verge of loosing it.

So I am to become a mommy this Christmas, we decided that to take my mind off this and focus on something else we are getting a puppy, so I can spoil it rotten and not be too obsessed with all this TTCing stuff[]I can shovel all the love i have inside me on it until my own bundle of joy shows up[]

Leigh hun, so great to hear from you, its been a while, I hope you stay around and let us know how you are.

Sorry for the long winded post, its just nice to be able to get it off my chest and be open to you all as you all know how much we have gone through. I hope for all our sakes that 2006 is a good year, in every aspect of our lives, not just the TTC part.

Love Sue

heya all!!

totally with u girls regarding being left behind and being slapped in the face by AF every month! i was stupid enough to tell a few ppl i was TTC....thinking with DS it was by accident so..hey it can happen real easy...wat an idiot...now i so feel the pressure and the advice is to relax!?!? ive tried the...no temping/opk..lets jus relax method...to no avail and now am obsessed with getting that sibling for DS...can be quite depressing as once u have one...u feel awful for not providing ur lil one with a sibling and ppl around u think ur a selfish person and are deliberatley holding back!!

and sue, im sure all this failed TTC is also causing major starins on our relationship...ive become so senstive to his general comments and we row so quickly...hes more relaxed..but i jus feel the world is out to get me!!

and Bd is no longer fun...its all about doing it around O ...and thereofre we both try and be real nice to each other then ..otherwise (like this month) we have a major row and no BD...so another month gone and another notch of stress to add to the belt!!

ok im going on and on...just wish i knew wen it wud happen so i could stop stressing/obsessing in between!! that b fab!!

xxx

Sue, good to hear from you, and I really do understand what you mean.

Had the same sort of conversation with my Sis the other day, I said that its strange because I've always been able to control what happens to me and what I want before - worked hard to get a good job, studied hard to qualify, and in general if I wanted something (not that I was ever extravagant) I could get it for myself without having to wait for it, I wasn't reliant on anyone or anything else and could choose what I wanted and when, but suddenly, all of that has been taken from me/us.....for the first time we don't have control, and something isn't happening how and when we want it to, and it's really hard to accept.

Don't mean to babble on, just think we're coming from the same sort of viewpoint. As with you, I've gone through a couple of patches recently when I've not posted that much, as it has been hard to deal with all the BFP's (no matter how pleased I am for everyone), and also I sometimes get fed up of having a 'one-tracked mind' and not being able to focus on living in the real world.....so I think its fine to withdraw every now and again, we know we'll all still be here for support as and when we want it.

I know I take my frustration out on my DH sometimes and we have some big rows (to the point where I've told him to move out!!), but if I'm wrong I apologise and he often knows what the real problem is, and is much lovlier to me than I often deserve.

Bit of info for those who don't 'know' me;
Me 31
DH 31
no children
ttc since May
1 m/c at 5 wks in late Oct

Dippy
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HI everyone,

Special Hugs to Syd.. Great to hear from you, hope you and beanie are well. xxx


Reading all of your posts its great to know I am not the only one who seems to be avoiding BD unless its around O [:0]

Rows with DH over trivial things if he happens to say anything wrong like the other day when we were in the car and he mentioned something about when we have our kids... I totally freaked and say IF, IF we have kids...fearing the worst that we will be childless...

Worrying he will leave me for some fertile young thing when I know he loves me to bits and would never do that but sometimes I feel as though if I carry on being a miserable moody cow I will end up driving him away....

Avoiding the DH boards because everytime I read about another BFP I felt sick and wanted to cry and sometimes did...

Spending a fortune on HPT's and last month tested from CD21 only to have FF move my O date from 14 to 19... So that meant I was testing from 2DPO!!! lol

Having my heavily pregnant neice to stay with her 2 year old and seeing DH with her and feeling guilty because he is brilliant with kids and he does not have one of his own to lather all his love on...

So there you go...

I am glad it's not just me, I am glad I am not the only moody, hormonal mad HPT buying/testing woman in here... lol Plus today I am glad cos I feel happy... Happy to write it all down and share it with other women going through similar experiences...

I am also glad of the ability to edit my posts as my spelling is crap today!!!!

Sparklekiss xx

Sparkle - as you can see this thread means so much to all of us. Like others on here, I've felt so alone the last few months as we haven't wanted to tell people we are ttc. Most of our friends with babies got pg straight away which hasn't helped either!! In fact when we first started trying, DH was paranoid that we would be taken by surprise and we wouldn't be ready!! But here we are 10 months later wondering what on earth has gone wrong.... We try to time things perfectly. In fact 2 months ago, I had my internal scan and was told I was just about to OV in the next 24-28 hours, so we dutifully BD'd every day and still nothing even though I had a guaranteed egg in the bank... And sometimes it's as if we're calculating when we last BD'd and "do we have to do it tonight"??!

Sparkle - everything you have said has happened to me too [] and my biggest fear is DH leaves me for being the moodiest and most un-understanding cow in the world and that he hooks up with some young gal and she gets pg right away...

And what is even more funny is that I promised myself from the word go that I wouldn't turn into one of those "mad women that test every month anyway" and what's happened??! [][] Yep, that's me.[][][!]

Anyway babbled on enough for now

love
loocy xx

Afternoon Ladies

I have been ttc since April 05 with no luck as yet....I have had two cycles where I thought I got a BFP as my AF was late but it came....Have been quite down about it over the last couple of weeks. I had to listen to MIL going on about her new grandson who arrived a couple of days ago...

My DH was very supportive of me but I think he is now getting fed up of me moping around and feeling sorry for myself. My friend has given me some good advice
1. It would be great to be pregnant but MIL wouldn't give you her full attention as she would be concentrating on her new grandson....
2. Your time will come
3. Be positive and just live each day as it comes...
4. Arrange a trip away even if it just a weekend...

I have decided that I am going to do just the above....enjoy every day with my DH and when the time is right BABY will come along...

I have also decided to try the OPK kits and see what happens...Has anyone tried the Boots Ovulation kits and what do you think of them?

Babydust to all

Kelly

Hello all

Haven't posted before or even read for a while, however wanted to write after seeing the new thread. Good idea! Maybe it's the run-up to Christmas but the whole TTC thing is proving just a bit more difficult to cope with than usual...!

Me: 34
DH: 32
TTC#1: since May 2004

We went to the GP after a year and all tests so far have been 'normal'. I do have unexplained pelvic pain mid-AF. Always seems to arrive in the middle of the night and I just have to curl up and do the deep breathing thing. Very odd. Have been told by a Gynae that it 'probably isn't endometriosis because intercourse isn't painful'. Sorry that I don't tick all the boxes! Am having a lap and dye in March which may hopefully explain some things. Would very much help to have 'something' to fix.

Hard to stay positive when it's been a while but it really does help reading everyone else's stories. Some months are worse than others...when you and DH both think to yourself 'We did everything right this month, it can't NOT happen...' And then it doesn't. It's just sh*t!

Babydust with tinsel on to all of you.
ClairEm xx