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I am soo peeved after watching this programme that I had joined this site just to vent off!

Amanda Beer makes me soo mad. What a pathetic excuse for an individual she is. Sitting there blaming everything except herself for her weight problems.

If that is not bad enough, seeing the damage she is doing to her kids is what makes me down right furious.

She knows first hand what a crappy life it is to be that big. Yet, she is setting her kids up for a life that will mirror hers.

I could not belive when she lost the weight and it showed her cooking "dinner" for her kids. The high calorie crap she dished up was unforgivable.... when she pathetically anounced to her kids that because of the stomach staple that she could not finish her dinner, she promptly offered it to her youngest dtr who is now obese !!! My god that is abuse if I see it.

If you are reading this amanda......get off your backside and start being a proper role model to your kids. Cook them a meal with proper veg (it actually costs less then buying that processed rubbish you were dishing up ! Not only that your son works for sainsburys and must have a staff discount card)Amanda help your kids avoid the life that you choose for yourself!

hi i myself am not that much smaller than amanda though i feel for her plight as i myself have asked for this surgery , i too was shocked to see she was not now showing her children all of whom were over weight the correct way to eat . when she offered her left over food to her children i just thought oh my god what is she doing i would never do that even now though my budget is tight i ensure my 2yr old has loads of fruit and veg in her diet so she does not end up as i have , though i am happy that she is indeed losing the weight , i was not happy to see the food she is eating and feeding her children, i have to wait for a group of people i have neve3r met to agree to releasing the funds for me to have this operation and when / if they say yes i will be doing everything i can to ensure my daughter is aware of the dangers she could face, congratulations amanda but please think of your childrens future and get some proper food in , go and relearn if you need to but save your children and do it now, you and i both know how horrid it is to be like this and you are offering that up to your children with every meal. xx

Hi,

Just a short intro to me, I'm a personal trainer and have just taken a quick look around this site as I thought it would help me to understand some of my clients and how they think. I have to say I'm quite astonished at what people do to themselves to try and loose weight! Alsorts of pills and potions going on it seems! Doesn't anyone eat meat and 2 veg anymore? )

Anyway in answer to sooo mad, I thought I was only one that got sooooo angry at his sort of thing!
Surely there must be some sort of follow up support after surgery like this, that re-educates the patient to live their life in a healthier way.. in fact it should be before they go for the op, so they are all prepared and ready to go when they get home!

Bethsmum, can I ask you what your story is? Obviously, you don't have to say here, I can give you my email address, if you wouldn't mind.

Just like, what have you tried and when and why have you come to the decision that you want this op done.. (I'd be scared stiff myself and think you're very brave coming to such a decision!)

I'd like to get to people, if thats the right expresion, before the situation gets so desperate. Personal Trainers aren't all about making you do 300 sit ups and and yelling at you like ole harvey whathisface from the fat club, we have a softer side too )

i live a few doors down from this lady, and i attended school with her son, simon. i regularly had to walk him home to protect him from the vicious bullies and disperse groups of kids who would push him into a corner, surround him and taunt him in the coridoors. i feel sorry for him because obviously, he and his younger siblings have picked up these bad eating habits from his mum. i have struggled with an eating disorder since i was 11. my mum was 20+ stone and i learnt the process of comfort eating through her. i was overweight and could not lose it, so i turned to bulimia, then crack cocaine & heroin. it really is so so hard to lose weight. if you haven't been there, you really don't know. luckily, my mum has now lost 10 stone but we both still have those underlying problems.

amanda is lovely, as is her family. i just hope she can control this in the future, though, i am afraid to say that the habits she and her children have aquired will probably never go away; they will be battling them for the rest of their lives. there really isnt much support for overweight people, or people with eating disorders in general. you have to get to such an extreme stage before you can get help on the NHS (if you've got money, you can go private). its like a drug addiction, most people can't just solve it themselves. they need proper help. she has had this op but has she had any counselling, CBT etc.? probably not. that is what she needs to overcome this fight.

hi just a follow up to say i had the surgery in july and i have already lost 8 stone in weight and could not be happier, i am no longer in the constant pain i was in and i can and do more with my daughter than i ever have. i am happier and more active and my daughter is happier now that we do more and play more together that pain and sheer exhaugtion have kept me from doing in the past, my eating started when i was abused at 7 and i am shamed to say i let that person rule my life for so long but no longer , i have seen the surgen a few times since the op and he is very happy with my progress, all this and i have not even begun to introduce all the measures i want to prevent the weight going back on which it can eventually, we have such a short time to change our habbits only two years if we are lucky and i am not going to fail and will def not be gaining all that weight back on , i still have about six stone to go but with what i have lost so far and my plans for excersice in the new year i am confident i will make it and show everyone that the nhs money spent on me was worth it and not wasted on me.
i do feel for amanda and understand how hard it is , she has done this op for herself but she does also need to stop her children going through what we all have because it really hurts and people are harsh and have no understanding as to why we are as we are not everyone turns to food but every one turns to something, i know a lady that was abused as was i and she became a prostitute and a drug addict and has not completed her fith time in prison and sith in rehab, but is seems that what she has become is accepted much more than the fat person i had become.

i for one will be doing everthing i can to ensure my baby who is 3 yrs old will not be fat and hated at any thime of her life and next yr she will be starting swimming lessons and dance lessons, trampolining and anything else she takes and interest in till i know which she will be happy doing then and only then will i know i have done all i can. my whole family is over weight and yet the new generation seems to be slim maybe because of us and that is a good thing.

to all those out the re who are bullies or just make a nasty rude comment when an over weight person passes by , you are only feeding the fire because that person will then need to go home and comfort eat because they did hear what you said and it tore at thier heart and made them feel use less so what is the point in trying because you wont care they have not eaten, thrown up or dieted till they can do no more, because they still walk down the street and are abused almost every step of the way and they eat because they want to die rather than carry on as they are, i know because i was there. but now im no

Bethsmum....Congrats at the sucess of all your efforts...you are to be admired....I remember you on the weight loss thread when you were losing the weight...my name then was Fireflii...I lost 3 stone and had a tummy tuck...but put the weight up again late last year...now I am fighting the good fight again...back in the saddle on LT...

best of luck pet x

I came on this forum to have a similar rant as 'soo mad' who commenced this thread.
I am not going to make it into such a personal dig at Amanda as 'soo mad' had done, but the underlying pretence of what 'soo mad' is trying to communicate is true.

I was disheartened when I saw Amanda feeding her left overs to her already obese child. I believe that this style of eating is what got the first pounds on in the first place. Amanda probably used to eat her children's leftovers and now it is reversed. Please Amanda, even if you dont cook your children a healthy nutritous meal, serve them one portion and no more!

Which brings me to my next point, where is the followup from these 'obesity clinics'. Sure these patients are weighed in and low and behold they have lost weight. But ongoing support is required from a dietician and counsellor. These people got fat due to bad diets, they are going to continue to eat these bad diets just in smaller amounts if they are not helped. Consequently in the future a situation just as bad can occur- an overweight person that has no energy/vitamin reserve because they havent eaten right and get diseases from that or can not fend off diseases a healthy person can.

I watched another show in this series, I believe his name was Gary. He had the right attitude, he changed all his eating habits as well as reducing his intake and it showed. He not only looked thinner, he looked healthier, Amanda did not look healthier.

I wish all the best to the people in these shows and those of you that are undertaking this operation without televising it. I am not sure I have the courage to undertake this operation although I am considering a lapband. I hope you achieve all that you want.